Do not look upon matrimony as a means to provide food and finery for you. Do not be ashamed of an old-fashioned mother. Do not be a "good fellow." Do not be afraid to say "I can't afford it." Help the family; be part of it, and not apart from it. When you are old enough to have a beau, do not be afraid to bring him into your home, no matter how humble it is. When I was a beau I courted my sweetheart in her home. My treat was red apples and a walk down the lane. Most every beau nowadays courts his girl with a taxi to the theatre, and red lobsters after the dinner; ten dollars they pay where I paid ten cents, and I had ten times more happiness. Be modest, girls; it is your greatest asset. Don't gossip or belittle other girls; find the good you can say of others; that quality makes you more attractive. Keep your voice low, be gentle, sweet, kind, human and simple; that is what my sweetheart is; that is why our married life has been a honeymoon all these years. Watch out for word candy and flattery; these things mark the hypocrite and a hypocrite is an abomination. Flattery is a practiced deceit--a dishonorable bait to catch affections. Do not allow any young man to relate a story in your presence that has the slightest risque turn to it. Show by your words and your actions that such presumption is an insult. Fine feathers never make fine birds; don't borrow finery; don't be attractive for your fine dresses; the men attracted by fluff, frills, feathers and furbelows are not worth shucks. Be square with yourself and square to the man who is after your heart; put yourself mentally in the place of a wife, when a man gets serious. Don't hurry, girls; don't judge the man by his money prospects but by his character and ambition. Have nothing to do with any young suitor who isn't always kind, considerate and attentive to his mother. Marry a man of character who courts you in the sweet, simple old way. If a young man spends money extravagantly before marriage, hard times will always be around during his married life. The most precious possessions in the world are happiness and love, and these; come from simple things, genuineness, and usefulness. Learn to cook and to sew. You can't be happy and idle at the same time. Learn to be independent of dressmaker and milliner and cooks. You may have them, I hope you will, but master these useful vocations yourself, then you will have dresses and hats and dinners worth while. The world is full of new-fashioned slangy, dancy, fancy, foolish girls who marry for style, stunts and society, and their married life is failure, worry and sorrow. Be the golden, pure, old-fashioned, sweet, simple, quiet, modest girl who knows things, rather than one who is a show-off girl.