Folk-Lore of West and Mid-WalesDavies, Jonathan Ceredig
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Folk-Lore of West and Mid-Wales
Davies, Jonathan Ceredig
Folklore -- Wales; Wales -- Social life and customs
It happened once that a "Neithior" or wedding festivities took place,
strange to say, without a wedding! This was about two generations ago
in the Parish of Llandyssul. A man of the name of B. T. Rees, in that
part of the country was engaged to be married to a young woman who was
known as Sally. Two Bidders had been sent round the country to invite
people to the wedding, and all other preparations had been made ready
for the joyful occasion, and everything appeared most promising. But
when B. T. Rees, a few days before the appointed time for the wedding
ceremony, went to visit his bride-elect, she would neither receive
him nor speak to him, but ordered him to depart immediately from
her presence, to the great astonishment and disappointment of Rees,
the bridegroom, and his friends. He endeavoured to reason with her,
but to no purpose. Afterwards some of his friends were sent to speak
to her, but nothing availed; it seemed as if she had suddenly made
up her mind to banish him entirely from her heart.
The wedding was to take place at Henllan on a certain morning, and the
"Neithior" in the afternoon at Llandyssul. When that morning arrived,
the bridegroom and his friends, decided to seek the bride once more,
but she had hidden herself and could not be found anywhere. Rees and
his party were in a strange predicament, and did not know what to do;
but they returned to Llandyssul, and in the afternoon the wedding
festivities were kept up just as if the wedding had actually taken
place; and when night came, Rees had come into possession of large
sums of money from the sale of beer, and donations, or wedding gifts
and the sincere sympathy of the guests, but he had failed to secure
a wife after all! Rees and Sally were married ultimately, however.
In the last century, the Neithior took place on the wedding day; in
former times, however, the festivities were continued on the Sunday,
which followed. Sir S. R. Meyrick, writing about one hundred years ago
says:--"Sunday being come, the bride and bridegroom's business is to
stay at home all day and receive good-will and pwython. This is called
"Neithior." They receive more money this day than Saturday, and all
are written down as before, whether fresh presents, or those repaid."
It seems from what I have been informed by old persons, that such
doings on Sundays had almost disappeared, if not completely so, in
Meyrick's time, at least in most places, but it is evident that Sunday
observances of the kind were common about the middle of the eighteenth
century; and in the old Church Register of the parish of Llanfihangel
Geneu'r Glyn, in Cardiganshire, the following record is found:--
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