American essays -- 19th century; Short stories, American
Has she a call to be a wife, who comes down to breakfast in abominable
curl-papers, a soiled dressing-gown, and shoes down at the heel?
Has she a call to be a wife, who bores her husband, when he comes into
the house, with the history of a broken tea-cup, or the possible
whereabouts of a missing broom-handle?
Has she a call to be a wife, whose husband’s love weighs naught in the
balance with her next door neighbor’s damask curtains, or velvet carpet?
Has she a call to be a wife, who would take advantage of a moment of
conjugal weakness, to extort money or exact a promise?
Has she a call to be a wife, who “has the headache” whenever her
husband wants her to walk with him, but willingly wears out her gaiter
boots promenading with his gentlemen friends?
Has she a call to be a wife, who takes a journey for pleasure, leaving
her husband to toil in a close office, and “have an eye, when at home,
to the servants and children?”
Has she a call to be a wife, who values an unrumpled collar or
crinoline more than a conjugal kiss?
Has she a call to be a wife, to whom a _good_ husband’s society is not
the greatest of earthly blessings, and a house full of rosy children its
best furnishing, and prettiest adornment?
MATRIMONIAL ADVERTISEMENTS.
That prurient young men, and broken-down old ones, should seek
amusement in matrimonial advertisements, is not so much a matter of
surprise; but that respectable papers should lend such a voice in their
columns, is, I confess, astonishing. I do not say that a virtuous woman
has never answered such an advertisement; but I do say, that the virtue
of a woman who would do so is not invincible. There is no necessity for
an attractive, or, to use a hateful phrase, a “marketable” woman, to
take such a degrading step to obtain what, alas! under legitimate
circumstances, often proves, when secured, but a Dead Sea apple. It is
undesirable, damaged, and unsaleable goods that are oftenest offered at
auction. A woman must first have ignored the sweetest attributes of
womanhood, have overstepped the last barrier of self-respect, who would
parley with a stranger on such a topic. You tell me that marriage has
sometimes been the result. Granted: but has a woman who has effected it
in this way, bettered her condition, how uncongenial soever it might
have been? Few husbands (and the longer I observe, the more I am
convinced of the truth of what I am about say, and I make no exception
in favor of education or station) have the magnanimity to use justly,
generously, the power which the law puts in their hands. But what if a
wife’s helplessness be aggravated by the reflection that she has
_abjectly solicited_ her wretched fate? How many men, think you, are
there, who, when out of humor, would hesitate tauntingly to use this
drawn sword which you have foolishly placed in their hands?
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