From the Easy Chair, Volume 1Curtis, George William
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From the Easy Chair, Volume 1
Curtis, George William
American essays
Still more flagrant aspects of misconduct rise upon the censor's view
of the sex. The shameful or shocking treatment by woman of those whom
she holds to be her inferiors cries to Heaven. Her heartless detention
of railway porters staggering under their burdens, her browbeating of
"tradespeople," cause this observer of fine susceptibilities and an
acute sense of the becoming to lament the desuetude of the
ducking-stool. The more general outrage, however, apparently common to
the sex from Helen of Troy to Florence Nightingale, is, according to
our censor, the spite of women towards each other, which mounts into
an ecstasy of rudeness when "woman goes a-shopping."
But our Cato the elder does not permit man truculently to exalt
himself by contrast with discourteous woman. He expressly disclaims
the declaration of the implication that man is mannerly, while woman
is not. In many men he remarks indifference to rudimentary courtesies,
and in many women a gentle regard for others which deserves even
eulogy. The sum of the whole matter, nevertheless, is that the average
woman is more neglectful of common courtesy than the average man.
"And no wonder," exclaims Cato the younger, "for the foolish fondness
of man teaches her discourtesy." If man, instead of giving her his
seat in the railway car, and slavishly removing his hat in the
elevator, and acquiescing in her tyrannical hat at the theatre,
insisted upon his legal rights in a bargain, and required the railroad
company to furnish without evasion the commodity of seats for which it
has been paid, or if he brought the manager to task for allowing one
of his customers to steal what he has sold to another--namely, a view
of the play--the world would tremble on the edge of the millennium of
good manners.
This terrible arraignment is a comprehensive accusation of selfishness
against the sex. But it seems to be a generalization founded on a
local and restricted observation. It is true of the woman of many
artists and critics. The women of Du Maurier, for instance, belong to
"a set," but they are not representatives of a sex. Becky Sharp is no
more a typical woman than Amelia, or Scott's Rebecca. Major Dobbin is
as much a type of men as Lord Steyne. Should our social censor
sequester himself for a time in any remote rural community, it would
hardly occur to him to signalize the sex of the rural wives and
mothers as the selfish sex. And in town, although there are a few
fleeting hours of flattered youth in which the beautiful and fortunate
Helen may tread on air and breathe adulation until she feels herself a
goddess, yet a newer and younger Helen is always gently pushing her
from the throne. Of all seasons that of blossoms is the briefest, and
the maturer Helen, of whom the sex is composed, is not wayward and
selfish, is no longer "uncertain, coy, and hard to please," but
patient, self-sacrificing, and true.
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