Good Form and Christian EtiquetteHenry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Religion
Good Form and Christian Etiquette
Henry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Etiquette
Any place of worship should be entered quietly, children and parents
together, single file, in such order that there will be no jostling,
crowding, or changing of places. There are two ways of seating a family,
either of which is good form. In one case the father enters first,
followed in order by the mother, the youngest child, and then the others
according to age, so that the eldest comes last. At the opening to the
pew, or row of chairs, the father turns, standing to face the others,
and waits until all have passed in and are seated, when he takes his
place at the entrance. This arrangement gives the mother the seat in the
farther corner, with the “baby” beside her, while the eldest child is
next to the father.
In the other case the eldest child leads, and passes into the farther
end of the seat, followed by the other children in such order as to
leave the “baby” next to the mother, who sits in the second place from
the end, beside her husband.
Sometimes when there is a large family, it is necessary to separate the
children by placing the mother in the midst of them between two restless
ones. But whatever order is necessary, let it be so matter-of-course
that the coming in and seating shall be in that decorous manner which
will impress the children with the sacredness of the service for which
they have come.
Teach the child that in entering a seat or row of chairs, good form
requires that he shall pass clear in to the farthest vacant place, or
that if he has dropped down in the end or middle of the row, and others
come to claim seats beyond him, he should always either arise, come out
and stand to allow them to pass in, or himself go on to the farthest
place. Teach him, never, under any circumstances, to make it necessary
for any one to climb over his feet and legs to reach a vacant place.
This is one of the most common and worst forms in which bad training in
deportment manifests itself.
Also teach your child to refuse to climb over anybody’s feet. Instruct
him either to wait for a decent chance to enter that seat or to find
another. The ludicrous, not to say unbecoming appearance of a woman who
tries to drag herself over the knees of some man who remains immovable
in the end of the seat, or who attempts to draw himself up to “make
room” for her to pass, is entirely out of harmony with the spirit which
should prevail in a place of worship; and the young man coming from home
with this habit, which has been formed by climbing over his brothers and
sisters, as well as parents and guests, and letting them climb over him,
will be left some sad day to wonder why people stop at the entrance to
the pew where he sits, wait an instant, look at him so queerly, and then
pass on, as if they were not willing to occupy the same seat with him.
He may think it is because he is from the country, because he is not
stylishly dressed, because they are very “stuck up,” when it is simply
because they do not choose to climb over his legs to find a seat.
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