Good Form and Christian EtiquetteHenry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Religion
Good Form and Christian Etiquette
Henry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Etiquette
There are many teachings as to what constitutes good form at table. It
would be impossible for the ordinary mortal so to acquaint himself with
them as to become a “social success;” and this is far from our purpose.
All we need care about is to see that the habits formed are free from
anything offensive. Society is kind to one who is not ambitious for
social distinction,—one who has something to say that is worth hearing,
who represents a principle, or some new thing the discussion of which
may possibly furnish an agreeable diversion,—very much after the manner
of the Athenians in Paul’s time; so that even if one does not “know all
the ropes,” like one “to the Manor born,” he will be received and heard,
provided he does not blunder into the few things which good form has
decreed that he must not do under any circumstances.
Among these prohibited things are thrusting out the elbows from the side
so as to push his neighbor at table; resting the elbows on the table;
and extending the legs under it so as to bring the feet in the way of
those belonging to the guest opposite. If any guest does these things,
he may be sure that there will be at least three people over whom the
best and truest things that he can say will have very little influence.
The eyes of those who chance to glance his way will be seriously
offended and quickly averted if he should take up even a half-slice of
bread and bite into it. Good form says that bread must be broken off in
small bits, just when needed, not spread, but with a small lump of
butter placed upon it (provided one uses butter), conveyed to the mouth
with the thumb and finger of the left hand. You will be permitted to
bite the piece in two once if you wish, but no more; that is, it must
not be more than two “mouthfuls” to begin with. Under no circumstances
must anything, such as fruit-pits, etc., be ejected from the mouth into
a spoon, fork, or plate, but taken from the lips with the left thumb and
finger, and placed on the plate. Neither bread nor any refuse is ever to
be placed on the cloth, but on the side-dishes provided; or, lacking
these, on the one plate that is being used.
Food should not be conveyed to the mouth with a knife, but with a fork,
always excepting soup, and such sauce as must be handled with a spoon.
Do teach your children not to thrust the point of the spoon into the
mouth, but to take its contents with the lips from that part nearest the
handle, without the least possible sound. Teach them not to lift the
spoon so full that it will drip; and as your boy grows up into mustaches
he will need to learn how to take soup and sauce without defiling those
manly ornaments, or else to let soup alone at the banquet. But you can
teach him from childhood to handle his napkin so deftly as to keep his
lips clean, even after they have put on their thatch.
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