Good Form and Christian EtiquetteHenry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Religion
Good Form and Christian Etiquette
Henry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Etiquette
I scarcely need to say, Do not use slang, for this is universally
understood as out of harmony with Christian practise; but yet it may not
be amiss to say that even the world of society, whose laws of behavior
we are considering, would ostracize one whose language was punctuated
with much slang. An _oath_ would be more tolerable to so-called “polite
ears.”
Money, or prominence, will for a time give a man social passport in
spite of all manner of ill-breeding. He can _buy_ a place and
recognition even from those who despise him; but this is not the sort of
recognition in the interests of which I am writing. I am pleading for
that which shall gain a hearing for the custodians of a truth without
which no man can live, and for the reception of which few are as yet
prepared. It is for the sake of the honest souls who are in the darkness
of the world’s “_culture_” that I am pleading. They have a right to know
all that the Spirit of God has been sending to his people concerning
that all-round righteousness that makes up the sum of that _whole gospel
for the whole man_, which is included in an uttermost salvation; and
some tongues must be so cultured as to talk the way open for truth just
as effectually as a _wag_ can do it for _fun_, a singer open it for a
song, or money open it for blind boorishness; and the quiet mother in
the home must have a large share of this work.
To this end teach the child that he must _listen_ when any other child
is speaking until he has finished; never to interrupt, or, if it is
necessary to give some information, to say, for instance: “I beg your
pardon, but,—” or, “Willie, if you please, was it not on Wednesday
instead of Tuesday?” Any interruption simply for getting in a word
should never be indulged. Teach him to wait patiently for a fair chance
to speak, no matter how great may be the temptation to “thrust in his
oar.” This should not be construed to include those playful
interruptions in the merry tangle of words which all children delight in
“once in a while,” “just for fun.”
Teach him to avoid all abrupt forms of expression, such as “Give me
that!” “Don’t!” “Stop!” “Quit!” “Get out!” “You sha’n’t!” “I won’t!” If
he never hears such phrases at home, he will not be apt to catch them;
but if he should, a few little experiences such as he would certainly
meet as a man upon entering the social world, with the adult equivalents
of these words, would teach him that they were very unprofitable. Let
him find out that he can get nothing in that way, and he will begin
intuitively to cultivate his tongue to acceptable speech.
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