Conduct of life; Courtesy; Generosity; Interpersonal relations; Kindness
Am I not right? Is it the sparkling bright apostle of pleasantry to whom
you go to borrow that ten dollars, or to the serious, kindly dub who
never sees the point? Which dentist is most apt to drill that horrid
millimetre too far into a shrieking nerve--he who tells you diverting
anecdotes, the while, or the solemn conscientious drudge?
To whom do you tell your troubles-- the agile wit, or the
bromide-minded, solid, respectable Philistine, your uncle, with the
shoestring tie? No, no; oh, no, my friend, you can’t be too quick on
the comic trigger, if you would have the Educated Heart!
There is “a time to weep, and a time to laugh,” said the Preacher; the
Educated Heart knows well how to control his mirth.
YOU call once or twice at the hospital. Do you ever call again? Not
unless you have the Educated Heart. Yet the patient is still perhaps
quite as ill. The plain truth is, if you must know it, most people
really dislike illness. It bores them. It interferes with their
happiness and convenience. It thrusts upon them, too, a disagreeable
burden of sympathy.
But, one there was--d’you remember? will you ever forget?--who used to
bring that cute scrapbook, every morning, pasted in with funny newspaper
items of the day’s news. One there was who wrote you letters every day.
One who rescued the clock that _always_ had something in front of it, so
you couldn’t see the time, who was careful never to hit the bed, who
talked to you, yes, to poor sick _you_, instead of to the
distinguished caller who happened to be present.
But still I insist I don’t mean mere kindness. Others were kind to you.
They bought you things. But such acts as these required more thought and
invention than the others spent, when they sent the jelly and champagne.
And oh, what do these Uneducated Hearts do at your first brave smile
(though the effort kills you), at your first would-be, will-be cheerful
letter, or at your first timorous step on crutches? They beam. Oh, how
they beam! “Oh, you’re all right now, aren’t you!”
It may pain you for months to breathe, you may limp on that broken ankle
to your grave--but it’s much more convenient for them to have you well
again.
And so, isn’t it lovely you’re cured!
ASK any invalid. Ask poor Luraine. “I’m afraid I’ll have to wear
glasses,” wept poor Luraine, after that accident when her eye was
injured. “Well, my dear,” said her would-be comforter, “I do hope you’ll
get some of those smart tortoiseshell goggles--they’re so becoming!” And
that, ladies and gentlemen, is what often passes for sympathy.
Ask any partially deaf person who is the cruellest of her would-be
friends. Isn’t it that kind and thoughtless one who says, so sweetly:
“Why, I think you get along awfully well, you know. Really no one would
ever know you can’t hear!” No one but the Educated Heart ever knows or
cares for the tearful nights of wild revolt, the days and years of stoic
suffering that remain, just the same. Yes, just the same.
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