Conduct of life; Courtesy; Generosity; Interpersonal relations; Kindness
To her house on the Avenue Malakoff I went (her only son, last of his
line, had just been killed at the front, but her work must go on), and
three exquisite William Allen Richardsons I picked out from all the
rest. Late that night, too impatient to wait, through the narrow,
shuttered, unlighted Paris streets I walked--no taxicabs in those war
days--over the river to deliver my initiatory tribute at Zeroine’s
hotel. And with it I left a letter telling her the roses’ pathetic
story.
This is what Zeroine replied:
“Yes, I know the De Laumont roses. They’re lovely. I saw the wife
of the Ambassador wearing one last week, and got the address. I have
been intending to buy some of them; but you have kindly saved me the
trouble.”
BUT for the most extraordinary misunderstanding of all that gifts should
mean, I think I must, after all, award the prize to Mrs. Hilking. The
Christmas tree that day at Mrs. Hilking’s was heavily hung with
presents--piled deep on the floor they were. Mrs. Hilking was happy--oh,
she was awfully happy! Didn’t she have good reason to be happy? “Why,”
gurgled Mrs. Hilking, so proudly, “baby has received so many, many
Christmas presents that I didn’t have to give him a single one myself!”
Selah!
DO you begin to see, now, what Sadie meant by style in kindness? Style
is what a smart hat has, isn’t it? It’s what an expensive motor car
has--or a beautiful dancer. It’s the perfect technique of any artist--a
successful clergyman, or a good novelist, or a clever burglar such as
Mr. Raffles. In short, style is a combination of good taste and
imagination. Then what is style in giving? To give what you’d like
yourself may be kindness. But the Educated Heart isn’t quite satisfied
even with the Golden Rule. It amends, or, rather, translates it thus:
“Whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, _were ye such as they_,
do ye even so to them.”
But perhaps you don’t know what your friend wants. Ah, but the Educated
Heart makes it its business to know, to remember, or to find out. “A
man’s heart,” you know, “deviseth his way.”
One friend I have to whom I can’t express a taste or desire that isn’t
treasured up against need. If I happen to mention liking a Japanese
writing set, it is only a question of time when that set is mine.
I said to the Prandials once that I loved watercress, and lightly wished
that I might have it for every meal. Never a meal have I ever had at the
Prandials’ table, since then, without finding watercress bought
specially for me.
D’YOU think it’s easy, this business of giving? Verily, verily, I say
unto you, giving is as much of an art as portrait-painting, or the
making of glass flowers. There really ought to be a four years’ course
in the art of making presents in every college for those who are not
born intelligently generous.
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