Hey Rub-a-dub-dub: A Book of the Mystery and Wonder and Terror of LifeDreiser, Theodore
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Hey Rub-a-dub-dub: A Book of the Mystery and Wonder and Terror of Life
Dreiser, Theodore
American essays -- 20th century
But I presume by “inner necessity” Ellen Key means intense desire plus a
marked affinity of two people for each other, and if the union is for
only so long as this endures I should see no drawback to it whatever. I
should say that humanity would be much better able to endure the
stresses and difficulties of the world if they were all so happily
mated, and indeed there might not be so many stresses and difficulties
to endure. No doubt we all wish that this would come true, but not all
people are motivated by either love or passion. They would not marry for
love if they could but rather for social precedence, material luxuries
and the like. They accept children as a somewhat unfortunate
concomitant, and so you have the curious problem of whether this state
and its results are good, bad or indifferent in so far as society is
concerned. For my part I would paraphrase Christ’s idea and say: “Render
unto Materiality the things that are Material, and to Love the things
that are Love’s.” Then the world would remain just about as it is now.
III
_Would a succession of unions, expressing different phases of true
love, be of higher value to the individual soul and to the life of
the race than one unbroken although loveless marriage?_
My answer to this question, based on my own individual temperament,
would be Yes, but I cannot help speculating as to the opinions of those
whose temperaments are so cool or so unemotional that they can put
social precedence, material comfort, or the general welfare of the
state, as they see it, above affection or passion. Thousands of people
are by temperament sacrificial, one might almost say masochistic. They
never put themselves first, and that for the very simple reason that
their emotions or desires do not compel them so to do. The religionist,
the moralist and the fanatic, for reasons of order or material
development, as he sees them, would and does look upon love and passion
as a disturbing, unsatisfactory and almost unnecessary element in life.
Passion is sin or weakness to him, and the individual who requires more
than one union to express his emotional necessities is either a lunatic
or a criminal. His first impulse is to drive him out of society, to lock
him up and reform him by some iron system of training; failing this he
will shun him and form little communities of his own into which the
victims of emotion and passion must never venture save as thieves steal
into a house at night. This last is well and as it should be no doubt in
his special case, but on the other hand he is the type of man who is
determined that there shall be no divorce for others very unlike
himself, who would make wife-desertion a criminal offense of the first
order and who would almost punish adultery with death if he could. He is
a puritan soul. He does not see Nature in all Her subtle ramifications
and climatic and chemic variations, and he helps to make that endless
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