I am not considering the houses which require a complement of ten
servants to keep their machinery in motion, as these do not form part
of my subject; but this slight calculation will enable us to form some
estimate of the cost of maintaining a large retinue.
We may well ask why we have drifted into this enormous expenditure, and
for what purpose we have gradually let our houses be filled up by a
greedy and destructive class, who, notwithstanding many bright
exceptions, seem to combine the vices of dirt, disorder, extravagance,
disobedience, and insolence. Why, indeed? For this simple reason, that
we are idle. Gloss it over as we may, by calling it a desire to secure
time for higher ends, the truth remains the same; we have neglected our
duty in order that we may live in idleness and devote ourselves to
pleasure. But if our lives are to be spent in pleasure, we shall
ourselves degenerate; for pleasure wears out the body more than work,
and excitement more than both. Let us take our appointed burden of
steady work, and bear it onwards cheerfully and patiently. By so doing
we shall feel it grow gradually lighter. It is not such slavery as the
oar to which we chain ourselves. The artificial strain on our lives
must be kept up by stimulants, and idleness must be roused by
excitement. But our routine of gaiety is no idleness; and as for its
name--gaiety--there never was a term more false. The gaiety is a hollow
mockery, masking fatigue, untruth, and disappointment.
Sidney Smith says, "One of the greatest pleasures of our lives is
conversation." If we will simply allow ourselves to talk upon subjects
of common interest, we shall find social gatherings less wearisome than
when we have to manufacture small-talk for civility's sake alone. If we
meet together for enjoyment instead of for display, we shall replace
dissipation--mere dissipation of time (what an endeavour for mortals,
whose time is their life!)--by gaiety of heart, which is the best
restorative to wearied spirits.
Let us Englishwomen make a strong effort to rescue ourselves from this
bondage, this constant drain on our resources; and, leaving to men the
duty to the state, let us seek our work in what is our duty--the rule
and guidance of the house, securing, as Ruskin says, "its order,
comfort, and loveliness."
But especially must we insist upon its loveliness, which is the point
most neglected in all that portion of our lives which does not lie
immediately upon the surface.
THE REMEDY.
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