Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
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Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
We like the manner of a person who appears interested in what we say and
do, and not indifferent to our opinion, but has at the same time an
evident reserve of stability and independence. It is much the same with
a writer; we require of him a bold and determined statement of his own
special view—that is what he is here for—and yet, with this, an air of
hospitality, and an appreciation that he is after all only a small part
of a large world.
With some, then, the self-image is an imitative sketch in the supposed
style of the last person they have talked to; with others, it is a
rigid, traditional thing, a lifeless repetition that has lost all
relation to the forces that originally moulded it, like the Byzantine
madonnas before the time of Cimabue; with others again it is a true work
of art in which individual tendencies and the influence of masters
mingle in a harmonious whole; but all of us have it, unless we are so
deficient in imagination as to be less than human. When we speak of a
person as independent of opinion, or self-sufficient, we can only mean
that, being of a constructive and stable character, he does not have to
recur every day to the visible presence of his approvers, but can supply
their places by imagination, can hold on to some influences and reject
others, choose his leaders, individualize his conformity; and so work
out a characteristic and fairly consistent career. The self must be
built up by the aid of social suggestions, just as all higher thought
is.
Honor is a finer kind of self-respect. It is used to mean either
something one feels regarding himself, or something that other people
think and feel regarding him, and so illustrates by the accepted use of
language the fact that the private and social aspects of self are
inseparable. One’s honor, as he feels it, and his honor in the sense of
honorable repute, as he conceives it to exist in the minds of others
whose opinion he cares for, are two aspects of the same thing. No one
can permanently maintain a standard of honor in his own mind if he does
not conceive of some other mind or minds as sharing and corroborating
this standard. If his immediate environment is degrading he may have
resort to books or memory in order that his imagination may construct a
better environment of nobler people to sustain his standard; but if he
cannot do this it is sure to fall. Sentiments of higher good or right,
like other sentiments, find source and renewal in intercourse. On the
other hand, we cannot separate the idea of honor from that of a sincere
and stable private character. We cannot form a habit of thought about
what is admirable, though it be derived from others, without creating a
mental standard. A healthy mind cannot strive for outward honor without,
in some measure, developing an inward conscience—training himself from
the outside in, as Goethe says.
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