Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
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Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
A subtler kind of withdrawal takes place in the imagination alone by
curtailing ambition, by trimming down one’s idea of himself to a measure
that need not fear further diminution. How secure and restful it would
be if one could be consistently and sincerely humble! There is no
sweeter feeling than contrition, self-abnegation, after a course of
alternate conceit and mortification. This also is an established part of
the religious discipline of the mind. Thus we find the following in
Thomas: “Son, now I will teach thee the way of peace and of true
liberty.... Study to do another’s will rather than thine own. Choose
ever to have less rather than more. Seek ever the lower place and to be
subject to all; ever wish and pray that the will of God may be perfectly
done in thee and in all. Behold such a man enters the bounds of peace
and calm.”[62] In other words, lop off the aggressive social self
altogether, renounce the ordinary objects of ambition, accustom yourself
to an humble place in others’ thoughts, and you will be at peace;
because you will have nothing to lose, nothing to fear. No one at all
acquainted with the moralists, pagan or Christian, will need to be more
than reminded that this imaginative withdrawal of the self from strife
and uncertainty has ever been inculcated as a means to happiness and
edification. Many persons who are sensitive to the good opinion of
others, and, by impulse, take great pleasure in it, shrink from
indulging this pleasure because they know by experience that it puts
them into others’ power and introduces an element of weakness, unrest,
and probable mortification. By recognizing a favorable opinion of
yourself, and taking pleasure in it, you in a measure give yourself and
your peace of mind into the keeping of another, of whose attitude you
can never be certain. You have a new source of doubt and apprehension.
One learns in time the wisdom of entering into such relations only with
persons of whose sincerity, stability, and justice one is as sure as
possible; and also of having nothing to do with approval of himself
which he does not feel to have a secure basis in his character. And so
regarding self-aggrandizement in the various forms implicitly condemned
by Thomas’s four rules of peace; if a man is of so eager a temperament
that he does not need these motives to awaken him and call his faculties
into normal action, he will be happier and possibly more useful to the
world if he is able to subdue them by some sort of discipline. In this
way, it seems to me, we may chiefly account for and justify the
stringent self-suppression of Pascal and of many other fine spirits. “So
jealous was he of any surprise of pleasure, of any thought of vanity or
complacency in himself and his work, that he wore a girdle of iron next
his skin, the sharp points of which he pressed closely when he thought
himself in any danger....”[63]
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