Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
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Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
It seemed to me that she might have learned the use of these pronouns
about as follows. The self-feeling had always been there. From the first
week she had wanted things and cried and fought for them. She had also
become familiar by observation and opposition with similar appropriative
activities on the part of R. Thus she not only had the feeling herself,
but by associating it with its visible expression had probably divined
it, sympathized with it, resented it, in others. Grasping, tugging, and
screaming would be associated with the feeling in her own case and would
recall the feeling when observed in others. They would constitute a
language, precedent to the use of first-personal pronouns, to express
the self-idea. All was ready, then, for the word to name this
experience. She now observed that R., when contentiously appropriating
something, frequently exclaimed, “_my_,” “_mine_,” “give it to _me_,”
“_I_ want it,” and the like. Nothing more natural, then, than that she
should adopt these words as names for a frequent and vivid experience
with which she was already familiar in her own case and had learned to
attribute to others. Accordingly it appeared to me, as I recorded in my
notes at the time, that “‘my’ and ‘mine’ are simply names for concrete
images of appropriativeness,” embracing both the appropriative feeling
and its manifestation. If this is true the child does not at first work
out the I-and-you idea in an abstract form. The first-personal pronoun
is a sign of a concrete thing after all, but that thing is not primarily
the child’s body, or his muscular sensations as such, but the phenomenon
of aggressive appropriation, practised by himself, witnessed in others,
and incited and interpreted by a hereditary instinct. This seems to get
over the difficulty above mentioned, namely, the seeming lack of a
common content between the meaning of “my” when used by another and when
used by one’s self. This common content is found in the appropriative
feeling and the visible and audible signs of that feeling. An element of
difference and strife comes in, of course, in the opposite actions or
purposes which the “my” of another and one’s own “my” are likely to
stand for. When another person says “mine” regarding something which I
claim, I sympathize with him enough to understand what he means, but it
is a hostile sympathy, overpowered by another and more vivid “mine”
connected with the idea of drawing the object my way.
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