Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
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Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
The view that “self” and the pronouns of the first person are names
which the race has learned to apply to an instinctive attitude of mind,
and which each child in turn learns to apply in a similar way, was
impressed upon me by observing my child M. at the time when she was
learning to use these pronouns. When she was two years and two weeks old
I was surprised to discover that she had a clear notion of the first and
second persons when used possessively. When asked, “Where is your nose?”
she would put her hand upon it and say “my.” She also understood that
when someone else said “my” and touched an object, it meant something
opposite to what was meant when she touched the same object and used the
same word. Now, anyone who will exercise his imagination upon the
question how this matter must appear to a mind having no means of
knowing anything about “I” and “my” except what it learns by hearing
them used, will see that it should be very puzzling. Unlike other words,
the personal pronouns have, apparently, no uniform meaning, but convey
different and even opposite ideas when employed by different persons. It
seems remarkable that children should master the problem before they
arrive at considerable power of abstract reasoning. How should a little
girl of two, not particularly reflective, have discovered that “my” was
not the sign of a definite object like other words, but meant something
different with each person who used it? And, still more surprising, how
should she have achieved the correct use of it with reference to herself
which, it would seem, _could not be copied from anyone else_, simply
because no one else used it to describe what belonged to her? The
meaning of words is learned by associating them with other phenomena.
But how is it possible to learn the meaning of one which, as used by
others, is never associated with the same phenomenon as when properly
used by one’s self? Watching her use of the first person, I was at once
struck with the fact that she employed it almost wholly in a possessive
sense, and that, too, when in an aggressive, self-assertive mood. It was
extremely common to see R. tugging at one end of a plaything and M. at
the other, screaming, “My, my.” “Me” was sometimes nearly equivalent to
“my,” and was also employed to call attention to herself when she wanted
something done for her. Another common use of “my” was to demand
something she did not have at all. Thus if R. had something the like of
which she wanted, say a cart, she would exclaim, “Where’s _my_ cart?”
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