In describing their experiences nurses often have revealed that they are open to patients in a certain way. This is evident when nurse and patient meet. The nurse may have prior knowledge of the patient, perhaps even an image of him drawn from case history, charts, tour of duty reports, and so forth; or she may meet him as a total stranger. But when they come together, the nurse sees "the patient as a whole." This global apprehension is not experienced as an additive summation but rather as a gestalt. It may result in a very clear "picture" of the patient's condition with nursing action initiated almost before the picture registers in full conscious awareness. Or the perception may be imprecise yet strong that "something is wrong." From these experiences one may infer that a nurse's openness involves being open to what is and to what is not in the patient's state of being as weighed against some notion (or standard) of what "ought" to be, with the intention of doing something about the difference. Thus, the nurse is open-as-a-helper to the patient. This kind of openness is a quality that characterizes the humanistic nursing dialogue. Of course, every nurse-patient meeting differs, for each participant comes to the situation as the {26} unique individual he is, with his own expectations and capacities for giving and taking help. When these factors are considered in terms of an actual personal nursing experience (for instance, the example recalled above by the reader), they highlight a tension in the lived nursing world. The meeting through which the nursing dialogue is initiated and consequently is possible is, to a certain extent, out of the nurse's control. She is assigned to approach or she approaches the patient in terms of her function. In this sense, "the nurse" is synonymous with the function "nursing." Yet she experiences each meeting as herself--a unique individual person, this here-and-now being in this body responding in this situation. She is at once a replaceable cog in a wheel of an incomprehensibly complex system and a unique human being sharing most intimately in another's search for the meanings of suffering, living, dying. Can these two world views be reconciled? How can they be lived in the nursing dialogue? Relating As a human response to a person in need, the nursing act is necessarily an intersubjective transaction. Or to put it in other words, regardless of the complexity of need and/or response, when nurse and patient meet in the event of nursing both have "to do" with each other. Since both are human, their doing with means being with. (Reflect for a moment on the personally experienced patient encounter you recalled at the beginning of this exploration. Relive it and see clearly again that the nursing dialogue involves being with and doing with the patient.)