Thus, for genuine dialogue to occur there must be a certain openness, a receptivity, readiness, or availability. The open or available person reveals himself as "present." This is not the same as being attentive; a listener may be attentive and still refuse to give himself. Visible actions do not necessarily signify presence so it cannot be proven. But it can be revealed directly and unmistakably in a glance, a touch, a tone of voice. (I can only ask you to substantiate this statement with your own experience.) Availability implies, therefore, not only being at the other's disposal but also being with him with the whole of oneself. Furthermore, it involves a reciprocity. The other is also seen as a presence, as a person rather than an object, such as a function or a case. As was discussed earlier, the nursing dialogue occurs within the domain of health and illness and has a purpose in the minds of the participants. Nursing is a lived dialogue (a being with and doing with) aimed at nurturing well-being and more-being. This fact of goal-directedness modifies or characterizes dialogical presence. As a nurse I try to be open to the other as a person, a presence, and to be available to the other. Yet, when I reflect upon my presence, I realize that my openness is an openness to a "person-with-needs" and my availability is an "availability-in-a-helping-way." By comparison, my experiences of openness and availability in social, family, or friend relationships and in nurse-patient relationships differ. In the later, I find myself responding with a kind of "professional reserve." While it is true that what I conceive of as "professional" and the degree of "reserve" has varied over the years and from patient to patient, nevertheless, it is always a factor influencing the tone of my lived dialogue of nursing. It is the qualitative differences in the various experiences of presence that deserve, yet almost defy, description. For instance, the presence seems to have a different quality of _intimacy_. It is not experienced as less intense or less deep in the nurse-patient relationship, but as somehow colored by a sense of responsibility or regard for what is seen as the patient's vulnerability. At times I am aware of a shadow of "holding back" in terms of what I consider "nurturing" {29} or "therapeutically appropriate" at a given moment. As a nurse, I find my presence flows through a filter of therapeutic tact. Or again, the _mutuality_ of presence may be experienced in the nurse-patient situation. At times I become consciously and acutely aware of the reciprocal flow of openness in the dialogue. It is as strong, definite, immediate, and total as in other dialogical relationships and yet it is somehow different. It is felt as a flow between two persons with different modes of being in the shared situation. My reason for being there, to nurture, and his, to be nurtured, bob into my consciousness like buoys marking the channel of openness.