This is not to say that sex-information should be given in a spirit of
evangelical solemnity and exhortation, nor even of soft sentimentality.
All that is needed is lessons in physiology, taught as a matter
of course, as botany or nature-study are often taught; and then
explanations to boys of the working of their bodies, how to keep them
in health, how not to dissipate and destroy their energies too soon.
Further, they should be told that woman is neither a chattel nor a
servant, nor even an inferior, but a partner in joy as in the business
of life; that there is no question or difficulty, public or private,
which cannot be brought to her for discussion and judgment; and that
she has a right to share in all decisions affecting a joint life,
children, money, and the conduct of affairs of State. To girls in the
same way could be explained the physical changes of puberty, marriage,
and maternity, how the child grows, what food and care the mother, and
afterwards the baby, will need. There is nothing in this too difficult
or shocking to young or adolescent minds. So many of us can remember
the secret conclaves with our friends when we puzzled out and pieced
together what scraps of information we could glean, awakening instinct
darkly supplementing this knowledge. Some of us can remember, perhaps,
having noticed obscene writing on school-walls, instantly reported by
shocked prefects, instantly effaced by school-mistresses with an awful
and portentous gravity which made us feel we had stumbled on the brink
of a secret of incredible wickedness and horror. One straightforward
lecture of concise information could have dispelled the lurking
mystery once and for all and imparted a sense of magic and wonder and
ambition. Some of the more fortunate of us, through study in libraries
and dreaming over poems, created for ourselves a finer attitude. With
no teaching other than that we might find someone who would marry us
some day, and that marriage was an excellent destiny even for educated
women, and with no belief in any of the moral taboos current around
us, some of us can none the less remember the pride of caring for the
body, safeguarding health and looks, avoiding excess, severe strain,
and overwork, because we cherished our dreams of the children that our
bodies were to make――not ordinary children, of course not: Promethean
creatures, endowed with every gift that mortal man could steal from
the jealous gods, strong, beautiful, intelligent and bold――kings and
conquerors, not of their fellow-creatures but of nature and the mystery
of the world. There is not a woman, unless completely warped by early
training, in whom such dreams and visions will not stir if we try to
wake them. If not, then let her pass: we do not need her to perpetuate
the race. And do not trick her into motherhood by false sentiment and
information, or by withholding from her the means to protect herself if
she is not fully resolved upon bearing a child.
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