Sexism; Women -- Social and moral questions; Women -- Social conditions
always looking for someone to boast to; woman is always looking for a
shoulder to put her head on.
This feminine affectation, of course, has gradually taken on the force
of a fixed habit, and so it has got a certain support, by a familiar
process of self-delusion, in reality. The civilized woman inherits that
habit as she inherits her cunning. She is born half convinced that she
is really as weak and helpless as she later pretends to be, and the
prevailing folklore offers her endless corroboration. One of the
resultant phenomena is the delight in martyrdom that one so often finds
in women, and particularly in the least alert and introspective of
them. They take a heavy, unhealthy pleasure in suffering; it subtly
pleases them to be hard put upon; they like to picture themselves as
slaughtered saints. Thus they always find something to complain of; the
very conditions of domestic life give them a superabundance of clinical
material. And if, by any chance, such material shows a falling off,
they are uneasy and unhappy. Let a woman have a husband whose conduct
is not reasonably open to question, and she will invent mythical
offences to make him bearable. And if her invention fails she will be
plunged into the utmost misery and humiliation. This fact probably
explains many mysterious divorces: the husband was not too bad, but too
good. For public opinion among women, remember, does not favour the
woman who is full of a placid contentment and has no masculine torts to
report; if she says that her husband is wholly satisfactory she is
looked upon as a numskull even more dense that he is himself. A man,
speaking of his wife to other men, always praises her extravagantly.
Boasting about her soothes his vanity; he likes to stir up the envy of
his fellows. But when two women talk of their husbands it is mainly
atrocities that they describe. The most esteemed woman gossip is the
one with the longest and most various repertoire of complaints.
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