Indian Tribes of the Upper Missouri: Edited with Notes and Biographical SketchDenig, Edwin Thompson
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Indian Tribes of the Upper Missouri: Edited with Notes and Biographical Sketch
Denig, Edwin Thompson
Assiniboine Indians; Indians of North America -- Missouri River Valley
If, however, by all their efforts they can not succeed in this they
then marry. When this is decided upon no courtship is necessary. The
suitor sends a horse by the hands of some respectable old man who ties
the animal to the door of the lodge where her parents reside and,
entering, presents a pan of cooked meat to the girl who is desired as
a wife. Consent is asked and obtained or refused through the medium of
this man. The nearest of kin are always asked (the girl’s father and
mother); if she have neither then the eldest brother, or uncle, etc.
If the parents refuse, both the victuals and horse are sent back and
negotiation ends. But if the suitor be determined to have her he will
try again, sending two or three horses, guns, kettles, and all he can
raise, until objection on that score is overruled and she becomes his
property by going to his lodge at dark and remaining there. When the
right price is paid the offer is seldom rejected, though refusals are
given on other grounds, such as old family feuds, or inability on the
part of the applicant as a hunter or warrior. There is no tradition of
the institution of marriage. It is a bargain and looked upon in this
light by both parties, not merely a contract of sale, but one of amity,
friendship, and mutual support of all related and concerned. Courtships
and presents are only resorted to when the possession of the girl is
aimed at without the consent of the parents. Otherwise the consent of
the girl is not necessary, she being obliged to obey the wishes of her
parents.
Neither the priests nor doctors nor any one else is consulted on these
occasions, except the nearest relatives, and the negotiator is some
man of standing or relation of the applicant. There is no parade or
ceremony on the occasion nor are any gifts made by the mother-in-law
to her daughter. On the contrary the son-in-law is regarded as their
property. All he has and does is for years to the advantage of his
wife’s parents. The most of the meat and skins killed by him are
carried to her parents by her until she has a child and her husband
commences working for himself. The foregoing is the marriage of a young
man with a young woman. The son-in-law, as has been stated, never
enters the lodge of his wife’s parents. Even in a casual passing when
they meet elsewhere he is obliged to hide his face by drawing his robe
over it, being as they say “abashed by them” or abashed to name or
speak to them.
The men usually marry between the ages of 20 and 25 years and the women
are given away from the age of 12 years upward. We are acquainted with
but two instances of men of middle age among them who have never been
married. The young of both sexes are extravagantly addicted to dress,
particularly the beaus, who dress, paint, feather, and adorn themselves
in every way imaginable, especially about the head, and are the most
consummately vain fops in existence.
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