Is it I? A book for every man.Storer, Horatio Robinson
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Is it I? A book for every man.
Storer, Horatio Robinson
Sexual ethics
There are still other causes of divorce. Their importance is so
great, and the subject so closely concerns every citizen, that I
have no hesitation in being even more explicit. In many cases the
charge of infidelity is rested upon the communication, or supposed
communication of infectious disease from one of the parties to the
other. Often the charge is true, often it is false, at least so far
as the imputation of sinful conduct is concerned. I disbelieve the
statement so often made, that either one or the other of the two
forms of specific disease has been occasioned, in the adult, by
other than by sexual contact. The allegations as to water closets,
soiled linen, &c., it has irreverently been remarked, should be
allowed weight only in the cases of clergymen, or others supposed
by their position to be above the scandalous practices of the every
day world. There is no doubt that to children such disease has been
communicated by suckling an unclean wet nurse, or by her using to
bathe it the foul rags with which she had cleansed her own sores. In
the case of adults, however, there are certain mistakes that can be
made, that indeed have been made, and have plunged families into the
deepest distress, the suspected party being wholly innocent. One of
these errors depends upon the fact that the primary lesion of the
most dreadful disease of unchastity may escape even the most careful
scrutiny, or from its insignificant appearance may be considered
of trifling importance. The disease being inheritable, may yet not
be evinced in husband or wife save as tainting their children, the
unmistakable signs of such taint being familiar to every physician,
and upon this discovery of infidelity, it may be attributed to the
wrong party. Another source of error is, that the other result
of unfaithfulness may be simulated by the effects of peculiar
irritations, or of the chastest congress under certain circumstances.
Of this fact there is not the slightest doubt.
Where none of these causes exist, the fire that consumes the bonds
of marriage as tow, is kindled from a spark, the veriest trifle in
itself, some unkind or careless word or look, perhaps unnoticed even
by the offender. This spark, through our own innate perversity, for
I contend that here as elsewhere, in sexual relations, the fault
lies generally with the man, or through the malicious or ill-judged
meddling of third parties, is fanned into flame, and then the work
is done: a separation, with or without the formality of a legal
divorce, becomes but too often inevitable, or if not carrying matters
to this extent, perhaps for the sake of the children, the parties
still live together, united in semblance, but in reality living the
most dreary of prison lives, each virtually changed to a foe.
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