Is it I? A book for every man.Storer, Horatio Robinson
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Is it I? A book for every man.
Storer, Horatio Robinson
Sexual ethics
For these sad experiences is there no remedy? Some would find it in
legislation, and would so extend the legal grounds for divorce that
it might become a relief or a luxury within the reach of every one.
To this, however, there are many grave objections of such importance
that they must everywhere be acknowledged; enumerating some of them,
I shall not attempt to present them all, for my remarks upon this
subject are not intended to be exhaustive, but are only collateral to
the general inquiry we have been pursuing.
First. Were divorces made more common, there would be far more
children and invalid women thrown upon other persons than their
legitimate owners for support, that is to say, upon the community.
The long and bitter trials that take place between parents for
the custody of their children, do not always rest upon parental
affection; they are sometimes based upon spite or revenge.
Secondly. The weaknesses and evil passions of mankind are only
controlled, to a great degree, by the existence of law, to thwart
which is attended by personal detriment. Remove or relax the
statutes, and an inducement, as it were, is held out to baseness
and to crime. “The saints,” said the wise observer I have already
quoted, “are all in heaven.” We are all of us mortal, and prone to
selfishness, to retort when irritated, to fly into passion when
retorted to. There is too much reason to believe that were divorces
possible wherever, at one time or another, they have been longed for,
scarce a house on earth would stand. The test would be too much for
poor human nature. If he would challenge this assertion, let every
man first ask himself “Is it I?”, and then he may look into the
mysteries of the circle of neighbors surrounding him.
It has very truly been said that every person in this world bears his
cross, and that in every house there is a skeleton. The closet may
be adroitly concealed, and its door may be kept closed, but though
the dry bones never rattle, though indeed they drop into dust, yet
the knowledge that they are surely there, robs home life to many
of half or of all its charm. In the little chafes and ills, the
disappointments and sorrows of married life, the rule of safety is
to bear and forbear, recollecting that every really chivalrous or
whole-hearted man should, seek, as the stronger, to bear more than an
even half of the natural burden.
Thirdly. Were divorces more common, or more readily obtained,
the very foundation of all society and civil government would be
uprooted. The stability of the state rests upon that of the elements
of which it is composed. When these return to chaos, or dissolve
themselves into the thinnest air, the commonwealth itself must prove
a bubble, collapsing as soon as pricked by circumstance.
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