J. Comyns Carr: Stray Memories, by His Wife — John Shaqi
J. Comyns Carr: Stray Memories, by His WifeCarr, Alice Vansittart Strettel
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J. Comyns Carr: Stray Memories, by His Wife
Carr, Alice Vansittart Strettel
Carr, J. Comyns (Joseph Comyns), 1849-1916
But that day in Great Russell Street, even Joe, always nervous about
the children, thought more of our first born. To me her reproof
had been convincing; I never again feared Ellen Terry as the safe
and tender guardian of my children; indeed she first taught me
much delicate observation of infants, but Joe--often terrified
about them--believed in no advice save that of his mother, who had
borne thirteen and reared eleven; yet upon one point my shrewd
Irish mother-in-law, with her always wise but sometimes wittily
caustic advice, and the more indulgent artist were agreed, viz.
that--as our country butcher delighted Joe by saying about his
live “meat”--babies, though disciplined, should be “humoured
not druv.”
Although nervous in moments of crisis Joe was, however, always calm and
competent; but he generally managed to relieve the situation with his
own irrepressible spirits at the earliest possible moment, and many a
comic tale hangs round the strange doings of an incapable old Gamp who
tended me at the birth of my second child.
He would lure her with the seemingly innocent question: “Sweetened or
unsweetened gin, Mrs. Peveril?” knowing well that the spirit was needed
for friction and that “Peveril of the Peak” (otherwise hook-nosed) as
he had named her, would “rise” every time and answer demurely: “I’m
sure _I_ don’t know, Sir. I never tasted neither.”
Luckily the old lady was neither sharp enough to see nor thin-skinned
enough to mind; but who ever minded Joe’s wit? Though it was keen
enough at times, the urbanity behind it shone through too well.
Even his wife was a willing target--and a good one. As Edward
Burne-Jones used kindly to say when they had both tried me on their
favourite theme and taken me in over a Dickens quotation: “There
never was anybody who rose better than the dear lady.” Yet I
maintain that it needs a profound student of the master to know that he
has created an obscure character named “Pip,” other than
the human boy in _Great Expectations_.
Well, many is the _bon mot_ to which I helped my husband.
When I declared myself nervous over my part in private theatricals at
my father’s house in Canterbury, I can hear him say: “You
are surely not bothering your head about two half-pay officers and a
rural dean?”
And one day at a picnic, commenting on a criticism of a sturdy
Irish uncle as to “not wanting these slight figures at all,
at all,” Joe gave me the sound advice not to sit upon a rock
“lest diamond cut diamond.”
We were all young then and things that may seem truly foolish now made
the company laugh; it is more remarkable that the radiant personality,
the inexhaustible animal spirits and rare sense of humour should
have survived years of hard work and still have shone forth after the
prostration of illness.
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