J. Comyns Carr: Stray Memories, by His WifeCarr, Alice Vansittart Strettel
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J. Comyns Carr: Stray Memories, by His Wife
Carr, Alice Vansittart Strettel
Carr, J. Comyns (Joseph Comyns), 1849-1916
So much for the affectionate reverence in which one held him who was
starting life’s race when that “famous interview” took place. Joe was
comparatively young himself then, but as the years went on there were
many of greater disparity in age, who did not fail to pay him the same
tribute; indeed, I don’t think there was ever any sense of difference
in this respect between him and the many good comrades in many classes
of society who rejoiced to _work_ with him because he always lightened
labour with kindness and good humour--who rejoiced to _play_ with him
because he was never afraid of, or at a loss for, the right word at
the right moment, were it grave or gay, appreciative or pungent as the
occasion required.
He was always the encourager, never the discourager, of sincere and
patient effort: bombast and a pandering to mere popularity, he could
censure with words of biting wit, but he never laughed at those who
sent their arrows at the moon though he knew well enough that such
might not achieve financial prosperity. His unfaltering advice was
always that everyone should stick to what he best loved to do.
“My dear,” I remember his saying to me one day, when I had
tried and signally failed to write a popular farce, “it takes a
more competent fool than you to know just what kind of foolishness the
public wants. Don’t you be put off what you _can_ do because you
fancy it is not what they want.”
And in a letter written perhaps in a more serious spirit to one often
oppressed by a sense of failure I find the words: “There is no
such thing as failure--excepting the failure to see and love the beauty
of life.”
These are among the graver memories of him: his generation will
remember him most readily for what Sir James Barrie, writing to me
of him as “a man for whom I had a mighty admiration,” appreciatively
describes as “his positive genius for conversation.” The latter word is
so apt because it perceives that the Celtic gift of repartee was the
most finely pointed of his arrows: he was generally at his best when
some might have fancied that he was going to be non-plussed.
One day he told me of a dinner at which King Edward VII., then Prince
of Wales, was the honoured guest. Someone had whispered to the Prince
that my husband was a Radical, and he, turning to him, asked if such a
thing could be true.
“I _am_ a Radical, Sir,” replied Joe, and after a
little pause added: “but I never mention it in respectable
society.”
The table was silent for an instant, but the Prince led the way with a
laugh and all was well.
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