Third Crystal Fifth Silver Tenth Diamond Eleventh Gold or silver jewelry Twelfth Pearls or colored gems Fourteenth Gold Twentieth Platinum Twenty-fifth Silver Jubilee Thirtieth Diamond Thirty-fifth Jade Fortieth Ruby Forty-fifth Sapphire Fiftieth Golden Jubilee Fifty-fifth Emerald Sixtieth Diamond Jubilee For those who prefer to observe the older, less commercialized—at least, unmodernized—associations, here is the traditional list: Fifth Wooden Tenth Tin Fifteenth Crystal Twentieth China Twenty-fifth Silver Fiftieth Golden Sixtieth Diamond While these associations may help suggest a gift, they should not be felt as in any way binding. The desire of the woman, the taste of the man, the discovery of a superb jewel in a shop, or a talk with a designer, may any of them shape the decision and the gift. A flower design, as I have said, is always attractive. And if one comes upon a fine one, why wait for an anniversary? Alice looked up in Wonderland to remark that she preferred unbirthday presents to birthday presents, because there could be so many more of them. An unexpected gift can be a bright surprise, and make any day a rich occasion. _The More Solemn Time_ A wedding and a christening form occasions when happiness and piety are intertwined. On other religious occasions, the gaiety gives way to solemnity, or is overcome by sadness. At these graver times, there is a concordant change in the selection of jewels. _Audience with the Pope_ A telephone call and a friendly word may admit one to a group audience with the Pope. This may be a happy, but it is also an awesome occasion, for the Pope is the avowed divinely appointed supreme authority of the longest-lasting institution in human history, the Roman Catholic Church. The procedure surrounding such an audience is set down and long established. A woman who enters the audience chamber does not come to be noticed, much less admired; she is there to participate in a service. The solemnity and significance of the occasion make all adornment out of place, with the exception of very simple jewelry of black jet. _In Mourning_ At funerals and for visits of condolence, dark clothing should be accompanied by very few if any jewels. It is a gesture of sympathy to the bereaved to come to them unadorned.