John Bull's Womankind (Les Filles de John Bull)O'Rell, Max
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John Bull's Womankind (Les Filles de John Bull)
O'Rell, Max
England -- Social life and customs; Women -- Great Britain
In the appendix will be found the account of a case that has recently
been tried in Dublin.[2] The prisoner, aged forty-two, had been
through the ceremony of marriage five times.
[2] See Appendix (a).
But for marriage made easy, Scotland is the place. There civil
marriage, religious marriage, all is unnecessary. You gather together
your parents and friends, present to them the young girl to whom you
are engaged, and tell them: "This is the wife I have chosen." The
matter is settled: you are married.
If I may believe certain Scotch novels, this presentation even may be
dispensed with. It is sufficient for the young people to say to each
other: "I take you for my wife;" "I accept you as my husband," in
order to be able to consider themselves well and duly married. "A
wedding is all very well," Sandy will tell you, "but for real fun and
enjoyment, give me a good funeral."
I do not speak of these Scotch weddings with the least intention of
laughing at them. I think those primitive customs simply admirable.
Laws, contracts, and other impediments of all kinds are only made for
rogues.
Compare this charming manner of getting married with the bothers and
hindrances without end arising from the necessity for producing the
papers exacted by the French bureaucracy, both religious and civil:
certificates of birth, certificates of baptism, certificates of the
death of parents you may have lost, written consent of parents who are
unable to be present, _billets de confession_, and I know not what
besides; until you wonder Red Tape does not demand your own
certificate of existence. It would seem as though the marriage
formalities in France had been invented with the express idea of
making young people shun matrimony.
* * * * *
Dress coats are not worn at weddings in England; they are only used
for evening wear, and are called evening coats. The bridegroom, his
best man, and the other gentlemen, are in frock coats. The dresses of
the bride and bridesmaids are similar to those worn in France on such
occasions.
The bride is led to the altar by her father. When the clergyman says:
"Who giveth this woman to be married to this man?" the father
advances, and replies: "I do." The dear man always appears to me
radiant on these occasions; with happy heart and beaming countenance
he answers: "I do." It is true he gives his daughter, but as that is
generally all he gives, it is a clear profit for him: one mouth less
to fill.
A suitor never thinks of asking for a _dot_ with his bride, as I have
said elsewhere. I even added: "Girls of the middle class in England
have no _dot_; or when they have, it is the exception, and not the
rule." This assertion brought down upon me a plethora of
recriminations. "What, Sir," wrote the indignant British parents, "we
give no _dots_ to our daughters! But, begging your pardon, we do so
when we have the means."
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