Letters on the Improvement of the Mind, Addressed to a LadyChapone, Mrs. (Hester)
Religion
Letters on the Improvement of the Mind, Addressed to a Lady
Chapone, Mrs. (Hester)
Women -- Education; Young women -- Conduct of life
Truth and justice demand, that we should acknowledge conviction, as soon
as we feel it, and not maintain an erroneous opinion, or justify a wrong
conduct, merely from the false shame of confessing our past ignorance. A
false shame it undoubtedly is, and as impolitic as unjust, since your
error is already seen by those who endeavour to set you right; but your
conviction, and the candour and generosity of owning it freely, may
still be an honour to you, and would greatly recommend you to the person
with whom you disputed. With a disposition strongly inclined to
sullenness or obstinacy, this must be a very painful exertion; and to
make a perfect conquest over yourself at once may perhaps appear
impracticable, whilst the zeal of self-justification, and the abhorrence
of blame, are strong upon you. But, if you are so unhappy as to yield to
your infirmity, at one time, do not let this discourage you from
renewing your efforts. Your mind will gain strength from the contest,
and your internal enemy will by degrees be forced to give ground. Be not
afraid to revive the subject, as soon as you find yourself able to
subdue your temper; and then frankly lay open the conflict you sustained
at the time: by this you will make all the amends in your power for your
fault, and will certainly change the disgust you have given into pity at
least, if not admiration. Nothing is more endearing than such a
confession; and you will find such a satisfaction in your own
consciousness, and in the renewed tenderness and esteem you will gain
from the person concerned, that your task for the future will be made
more easy, and your reluctance to be convinced will on every occasion
grow less and less.
The love of truth, and a real desire of improvement, ought to be the
only motives of argumentation; and, where these are sincere, no
difficulty can be made of embracing the truth, as soon as it is
perceived. But, in fact, people oftener dispute from vanity and pride,
which makes it a grievous mortification to allow that we are the wiser
for what we have heard from another. To receive advice, reproof, and
instruction, properly, is the surest sign of a sincere and humble heart;
and shows a greatness of mind, which commands our respect and reverence,
while it appears so willingly to yield to us the superiority.
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