Life in the sick-room : $b EssaysMartineau, Harriet
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Life in the sick-room : $b Essays
Martineau, Harriet
Conduct of life; Sick
heart of an invalid to learn, by chance, that children count the days
and hours till they may come, and that all their gravity is about having
to go away. It is the most refined flattery to let one know it: and the
knowledge of it may well be almost a specific against ill-temper. And
then again, the nurse. It is by no means sufficient for one’s comfort
that one’s nurse should be well qualified,--ever so trust-worthy, and
ever so kind: it is necessary too that she should be free and happy.
There must be no fear in her tread,--no reserve in her eye,--no
management in her voice--no choice in her tidings. There is no
ill-temper in that jealousy of the invalid’s spirit which requires
assurance of being no burden, and no restraint. It is a righteous
jealousy, and among the most effectual safeguards against the indulgence
of ill-humour. That there are disorders, and seasons of illness, which
almost compel the forfeiture of the mental and moral freedom and ease of
the sick-room, is a painful truth; and those who suffer under such
irresistible or unresisted irritation are supremely to be
compassionated, whether their actual pain of body be more or less. But
it is quite as certain that a large number of sufferers are exempt from
temptation to this kind of failure, being subject, the while, to some
other,--more tolerable, as affecting only, or chiefly, their own
happiness.
The very opposite failure to that of irritability,--which shows itself
in dissatisfaction with others,--is no less common,--unreasonable
dissatisfaction with one’s self. This lowering, depraving tendency to
self-contempt requires for its establishment as a fault of temper, long
protraction or permanence of illness: but when once established, it is
as serious a fault of temper as can be entertained. Where religious
faith and trust are insufficient for the need, this temper is almost a
necessary consequence of any degree of mental and moral activity in a
sick prisoner. The retrospect of one’s own life, from the stillness of
the sick room, is unendurable to any considerate person, except in the
light of the deepest religious humility; and the strongest faith in the
all-wise ordering of the moral world, is no more than sufficient to
counteract that sickening which spreads from the distressed body to the
anxious heart, when intervals of ease and lightness are few and brief.
When to the pains and misgivings of such perpetual retrospect are added
the burdens of a sense of present and permanent uselessness, and of
overwhelming gratitude for services received from hour to hour,--there
is no self-respect in the world that will, unaided, support cheerfulness
and equanimity.
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