Life in the sick-room : $b EssaysMartineau, Harriet
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Life in the sick-room : $b Essays
Martineau, Harriet
Conduct of life; Sick
Thus does my experience moralize for both parties. If, in ordinary life,
there is no peace of mind for those whose happiness depends on the good
opinion of everybody, much less can there be tranquillity of mind in the
sick-room for such. When we are in the world, our presence breaks down
mistaken or slanderous allegations, and we are sure to be seen as we
are, and to be rightly understood, by large numbers of persons,--by all,
indeed, whose opinion is of value to us. But, while sequestered in the
sick-room, we are, in point of reputation, wholly at the mercy of those
who speak of us. It is true, most persons are so humane, and those about
us are so touched by our affliction, as that the best construction is
put on our manners and conduct by the greater number of reporters. But
it is strange and fortunate if there be not, among our acquaintance,
some intrusive person whom we have to keep at a distance,--some meddler
whom we have to check, some well-meaning mischief-maker, of impenetrable
complacency, who will most affectionately and compassionately report us
as sadly changed, unable to value our best friends, or to estimate the
most important services. Whether charges like these arise, or old
misrepresentations reappear, while we are invisible and defenceless, we
may be miserable enough if we let such things trouble us. Those least in
danger, as to temper, are persons of note, who have had former
experience of the diversities of the world’s opinion. They can smile and
wait. But it may be easily conceived that such incidents may be trying
to invalids who are the subjects of notoriety for the first time,--of
that sort of notoriety which affliction creates, through the universal
sympathy of human hearts. Under so new an experience, the sufferer may
feel more vexation by the accidental knowledge of one unjust
representation of his state of temper, than cheered by a hundred
evidences of the esteem and sympathy of those about him. For the evil
there is no help; but there are abundant resources against the
vexation,--the same resources which enable the humble and hoping
Christian, whether strong or weak, rich or poor in outward blessings, to
go through good or evil report with a heart tranquil in Divine Trust,
and occupied with human love.
BECOMING INURED.
“Sunt homines qui cum patientiâ moriuntur: sunt autem quidam
perfecti qui cum patientiâ vivunt.”
ST. AUGUSTIN.
“No cruel guard of diligent cares, that keep
Crowned woes awake, as things too wise for sleep:
But reverend discipline, religious fear,
And soft obedience find sweet biding here!
The self-remembering soul sweetly recovers
Her kindred with the stars: not basely hovers
Below--but meditates the immortal way
Home to the source of light and intellectual day.”
CRASHAW.
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