Life in the sick-room : $b EssaysMartineau, Harriet
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Life in the sick-room : $b Essays
Martineau, Harriet
Conduct of life; Sick
We hear, every day, benevolent and compassionate persons, in discussing
the woes of sufferers, dwelling on the thought of such sufferers
becoming inured; and we see them, if possible, reposing on this as the
closing and conclusive idea. How natural this is! How often and how
undoubtingly we did it ourselves, in our days of ease! But how
differently it sounds now! How quickly do we detect in it the discharge
and dismissal of uneasy sympathies! How infallibly do we see how far it
may be true; and what a tale could we tell of what is included in the
phrase, “becoming inured,” where it may be most truly applied! of what
experience is involved in the process, where it is shortest and easiest!
I was lately speaking to a tender-hearted woman, who had known
suffering, but not torment, of more than one case of persons who, dying
slowly under a torturing disease, simply and naturally declared, shortly
before death, the season of their illness to have been the happiest part
of their lives. There are different ways of explaining this fact, which,
though I always believed it, I did not till lately understand. My
friend, however, found no difficulty. She said, in a tone of pitying
tenderness, but of perfect decision, “O! they become inured to it.” I
replied by some slight description of the suffering in the case which
had impressed me most, and asked if she thought use and experience could
soften pain like that. “O yes,” she again said, “they become inured to
it. That is certainly the thing.”
Is it so? I am persuaded it is not. To the great majority of evils men
may become inured; but not to all. To almost every kind, and to vast
degrees of privation, moral and physical, they may become inured; and to
chronic sufferings of mind and body; but I am convinced that there is
no more possibility of becoming inured to acute agony of body than to
paroxysms of remorse--the severest of moral pains. For the sake of both
sufferers and sympathisers, it would be well that this should be
thoroughly understood, that aid may not fall short, nor relief be looked
for in the wrong direction.
The truth is, as all will declare who are subject to a frequently
recurring pain, a familiar pain becomes more and more dreaded, instead
of becoming lightly esteemed in proportion to its familiarity. The
general sense of alarm which it probably occasioned when new, may have
given way and disappeared before a knowledge of consequences, and a
regular method of management or endurance; but the pain itself becomes
more odious, more oppressive, more feared, in proportion to the
accumulation of experience of weary hours, in proportion to the
aggregate of painful associations which every visitation revives. When
it is, moreover, considered that the suffering part of the body is, if
not recovering, growing continually more diseased and susceptible of
pain, it will appear how little truth there is in the supposition of
tortured persons becoming inured to torture.
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