Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
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Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.
Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
Unitarians -- United States -- Biography; Ware, Mary L. (Mary Lovell), 1798-1849
"... I turn now to that for which I most wished to write,--your
present anxieties in your professional duties. I cannot indeed,
as you say, help you, as _he_ could have done, but O how fully
can I sympathize with you! It is to my mind only the
reiteration of what I have so often heard from him; even after
the ten years' experience which he had had when I first was
partaker of his joys and sorrows, he suffered at times as you
do now; and the details he has given me of his trials when he
was first settled would equal, if not exceed, yours. You may
depend upon it, dear John, yours is a common experience of all
young ministers who have feeling and sensibility enough to be
really good ministers; and you must not be discouraged by
thinking your difficulties grow out of peculiar disabilities. I
remember hearing a parishioner of Mr. Buckminster say, that he
felt so much his incapacity to administer comfort to the sick
and afflicted, that it was distressing to see him in a
sick-room. I wish you could talk freely with some ministers
about it. I have no doubt you would find it more or less so
with all, according to their natural temperament. As I have
said again and again, it is well to keep one's conscience and
sensibilities tender; it is well to realize one's deficiencies
to the extent of making us humble and energetic to improve, but
not to make us despond or be discouraged; for; 'faint heart
never won' the prize of goodness, any more than of the less
spiritual objects. I know what it is to feel that more is
expected of one than _can_ be accomplished; and it is, I grant,
of all things the most distressing. But we must shut our eyes
to all such considerations, and go on, looking only to the
standard we have in our own minds, striving with all diligence
to reach that, and be satisfied with striving, if it be but
real, hearty endeavor.... I remember there were some passages
in Taylor's 'Holy Living,' which used to be a great help to me
in your state of mind. I have not the book by me, and cannot
quote the words. Fenelon, too, has much comfort for one thus
tried.... We forget, in our familiarity with what seem
'commonplaces,' that they really contain the great, fundamental
principles from which all strength, all consolation, is to be
derived; and of course, when the vision is quickened by present
need, they all seem to be worth more than at any other time.
And as to the other point, it is not you that speak,--you are
only the medium by which the truths which _God_ spake are
conveyed to the outward ear; you are only His instrument, and,
while you are to seek to supply yourself with a full portion
from the fountain of all truth, you are to be satisfied to
present it as His, not your own; sympathizing as a
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