Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
Religion
Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.
Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
Unitarians -- United States -- Biography; Ware, Mary L. (Mary Lovell), 1798-1849
fellow-Christian, not dictating as a leader and guide. I see no
other way in which a young, inexperienced minister can have any
comfort in that department of his duties. Many reasons come to
me which may account for the greater difficulty in cases of
sickness, than in bereavement.
"Truly your Mother."
While looking for a place of permanent residence for herself and family,
with an opportunity of doing something for their support, Mrs. Ware
received an earnest invitation from a gentleman in Milton, to go there
and take the instruction of three little children, in connection with
her own, for two or three hours a day. On many accounts, she was
inclined to accept this offer at once. But she looked well at all sides
of it, and especially at its moral aspect and probable influence upon
character. One is struck with her plain and practical, yet comprehensive
and exalted view of the question, where so many would have looked only
at the immediate and tangible advantage. "There are many things to be
weighed before so great a step is taken. Expense is of course a great
item, but not the greatest. The influences upon my children must be the
first, usefulness the second, and the possibility of living without debt
a _sine qua non_ anywhere. Now I am not a very romantic person, and am
not disposed to live under any less refining influences than I can help.
But my children are destined to work for their living, and I wish to
have them as happy in doing so as right principles and a healthy tone of
mind can make them." The result of full reflection was favorable to the
plan; and the wisdom of her decision, while it affected all her
remaining days, became more and more manifest to the end. From that
moment she had a new object, demanding and creating new energies. "I
already see how I shall be a great gainer by this plan, in the strength
of the stimulus it will offer to mental effort. In fact, I begin to
realize that I am more exhausted mentally than I am physically, by the
anxieties of the past, and absolutely need the application of salutary
mental medicines, as my body would of physical, if it had suffered in
proportion."
Thus another change was to be made,--and the last, in a life of change.
It cost an effort. "This first going forth alone, to bear new
responsibilities, to make a new experiment, unaided by _his_ strength,
unassisted by his wisdom,--this is indeed to realize the loss of his
companionship as I have not done before. But that blessed faith! that
faith in Him who is 'the strength of the lonely,'--I have a trust that
it will be sufficient for me, although I cannot now see how."
A few lines to one of her children, as the last record on that sacred
spot, closes the life at Framingham.
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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