Do not fret at the inconvenience he causes you, but make him feel it
first of all. Finally, without saying anything about it, have the
panes of glass mended. He breaks them again. Change your method: say
to him coolly and without anger, "Those windows are mine; I took pains
to have them put there, and I am going to make sure that they shall not
be broken again." Then shut him up in some dark place where there are
no windows. At this novel proceeding, he begins to cry and storm: but
nobody listens to him. He soon grows tired of this, and changes his
tone; he complains and groans. A servant is sent, whom the rebel
entreats to set him free. Without trying to find any excuse for utter
refusal, the servant answers, "I have windows to take care of, too,"
and goes away. At last, after the child has been in durance for
several hours, long enough to tire him and to make him remember it,
some one suggests an arrangement by which you shall agree to release
him, and he to break no more windows. He sends to beseech you to come
and see him; you come; he makes his proposal. You accept it
immediately, saying, "Well thought of; that will be a good thing for
both of us. Why didn't you think of this capital plan before?" Then,
without requiring any protestations, or confirmation of his promise,
you gladly caress him and take him to his room at once, regarding this
compact as sacred and inviolable as if ratified by an oath. What an
idea of the obligation, and the usefulness, of an engagement will he
not gain from this transaction! I am greatly mistaken if there is an
unspoiled child on earth who would be proof against it, or who would
ever after think of breaking a window purposely.
Falsehood. The Force of Example.
We are now within the domain of morals, and the door is open to vice.
Side by side with conventionalities and duties spring up deceit and
falsehood. As soon as there are things we ought not to do, we desire
to hide what we ought not to have done. As soon as one interest leads
us to promise, a stronger one may urge us to break the promise. Our
chief concern is how to break it and still go unscathed. It is natural
to find expedients; we dissemble and we utter falsehood. Unable to
prevent this evil, we must nevertheless punish it. Thus the miseries
of our life arise from our mistakes.
I have said enough to show that punishment, as such, should not be
inflicted upon children, but should always happen to them as the
natural result of their own wrong-doing. Do not, then, preach to them
against falsehood, or punish them confessedly on account of a
falsehood. But if they are guilty of one, let all its consequences
fall heavily on their heads. Let them know what it is to be
disbelieved even when they speak the truth, and to be accused of faults
in spite of their earnest denial. But let us inquire what falsehood
is, in children.
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