Miss America; pen and camera sketches of the American girlBlack, Alexander
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Miss America; pen and camera sketches of the American girl
Black, Alexander
Women -- United States; Women -- United States -- Social conditions
However, I am glad to think that Miss America does not seek to revive
the spectacular talking such as women did in the days of the old
French salons. A woman talking to a dozen men at the same time may
have been a charming affair. Mme. Récamier is credited with having
done it very well. But no sane and truthful man ever will admit his
contentment with the microscopic fragment of a woman’s attention.
Exclusive interest in a woman is undoubtedly a primitive instinct, yet
the great deference paid to success in the _tête-à-tête_ well
may justify this instinctive preference, and those hostesses surely
will be most successful who devise some liberty for this instinct. The
tendency of our social life is doubtless against centralization. There
can be no more monologists, it seems. “The worst of hearing Carlyle,”
said Margaret Fuller, “is that you cannot interrupt him.” The modern
social gathering, whatever its aims or variations, is quite sure at
least of this quality,--that it will interrupt. We cannot deny that
even “One-Minute Conversations with Nice Girls” is an experience having
its compensations as well as its drawbacks, for while a few eloquent
seconds with many women may not be so desirable in some ways as many
eloquent seconds with one woman, it always must be difficult to know
beforehand just when this will be the case. Mr. Warner has shrewdly
pointed out that some women are interesting for five minutes, some
for ten, some for an hour; “some,” he adds, “are not exhausted in a
whole day; and some (and this shows the signal leniency of Providence)
are perennially entertaining, even in the presence of masculine
stupidity.” The trouble is (as you might guess) that the interruption
always cuts you off at the end of three minutes with the girl who
would be interesting for a whole day. For aught I know, society may
have averaged this thing, and have discovered that the low limit is
safest, that it leaves both parties most completely in possession of
the benefit of the doubt. But how few men can start a new conversation
every ninety seconds with anything like the success that attends a
woman’s efforts to do the same thing?
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