And there is nothing which would so effectually remove prejudice against our democratic institutions as the general cultivation of good-breeding in the domestic circle. Good manners are the exterior of benevolence, the minute and constant exhibitions of “peace and good-will;” and the nation, as well as the individual, which most excels in the external demonstration, as well as the internal principle, will be most respected and beloved. It is only the training of the family state according to its true end and aim that is to secure to woman her true position and rights. When the family is instituted by marriage, it is man who is the head and chief magistrate by the force of his physical power and requirement of the chief responsibility; not less is he so according to the Christian law, by which, when differences arise, the husband has the deciding control, and the wife is to obey. Where love is, there is no law;” but where love is not, the only dignified and peaceful course is for the wife, however much the man’s superior, to “submit, as to God and not to man.” But this power of nature and of religion, given to man as the controlling head, involves to him especially the distinctive duty of the family state, _self-sacrificing love_. The husband is to “honor” the wife, to love her as himself, and thus to account her wishes and happiness as of equal value with his own. But more than this, he is to love her “as Christ loved the Church;” that is, he is to “suffer” for her, if need be, in order to support and elevate and ennoble her. The father, then, is to set the example of self-sacrificing love and devotion; and the mother, of Christian obedience, when it is required. Every boy is to be trained for his future domestic position by labor and sacrifices for his mother and sisters. It is the brother who is to do the hardest and most disagreeable work, to face the storms, and perform the most laborious drudgeries. In the family circle, too, he is to give his mother and sister precedence in all the conveniences and comforts of home life. It is only in those nations where the teachings and example of Christ have had most influence that man has ever assumed his obligations of self-sacrificing benevolence in the family. And even in Christian communities, the duty of wives to obey their husbands has been more strenuously urged, than the obligations of the husband to love his wife “as Christ loved the Church.”