Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
One source of great error arises because of the hypocrisy that society
still forces upon women in all questions of sex, and in particular on
this matter of their wanting, or not wanting, to be mothers. You see,
the desire for a child is allowed to them, but it is not yet allowed
to them to desire love without the child. We are a strange people. And
this belief, instilled into us by puritanism and a religion which denies
simple human needs, that sex enjoyment is immoral without the purpose
of procreation, has been a most degrading influence. It has done great
harm. It has poisoned the lives of thousands of women and men; but the
greatest of the evils it has wrought is that, under its influence,
countless children have been born, both in marriage and outside of it,
against the will of their mothers. Until it is openly recognised that
women are not alike in their sexual natures any more than they are alike
in their outward appearance, that they cannot all be classed together
as the mother-sex, this evil cannot be changed; the old hypocrisy will
continue and children will verily be born in sin, for they will be born
without the mother’s desire, and for this the race must pay the penalty.
We have, I am sure, to face the fact of the general occurrence among us
of women of the siren type; they are the exact opposite to the mother
type. With them the “pleasure factor”[83] in the sexual act is the aim
and end of love: this results, as it seems to me, in an intensified
egoism, which has far-reaching effects first in the woman’s attitude
to the man, as later in her attitude to her children. The siren woman
is the property of all men, or rather it would be much nearer to the
truth to say that all men are her property. I do not think such a woman
can ever remain satisfied with one mate, though circumstances may hold
her apparently faithful to her marriage vows. She is quite unsuited for
monogamous marriage, unless, indeed, she finds a man of a similar type
whom she has perpetually to reconquer. Even then there must be variety in
each conquest to provide the excitement necessary with both to stimulate
love. Such a woman, as, of course, also the man, is always unsuited for
the selfless sacrifices of parenthood. She is the natural prostitute, who
absorbs everything in sex for her own desire.
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