Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
There can be no question that the situation will be difficult. For
the return of women to the home and what hitherto has been considered
exclusively feminine work is going to mean much more than a change of
occupation; it will be going back to the insistent duties of the narrowed
woman’s sphere with new ideas and a fresh command of life. It is useless
pretending that this can be easy. For one thing, the great uplift in
women’s wages has given girls as well as women an independence, with a
quite strange joy as spenders which they have not known before.
And this new power in industry has been associated also with many women
with a new power in the home. The withdrawal to the war of the men of
the family has left women with an opportunity to spend incomes over
which hitherto they had no direct control. So that sometimes one wonders
whether men will be allowed to re-enter their homes, if they come back,
on the same terms as before they held. Will women again accept with
contentment a position of economic dependence? This cannot fail, I think,
to act directly on the conditions of marriage. The question would seem to
be this: Will women come back to the home believing the home to be the
central interest of their lives? Will they feel that motherhood, with
the care of the little child and all the duties it should entail, is the
ultimate joy, for the denial of which no personal freedom or success in
work can compensate?
It is one of the unhappy features of our present condition of necessity
for women to carry on the work of this country that the most deep and
far-reaching issues are being decided in haste, and in many cases by
young girls who have never been taught by any wise training to realise
their own nature as women, or to understand their sexual needs with their
immense restricting power. And my fear is that the things which matter
most to life will be lost. I feel that almost everything in the future
depends on the inner attitude of the thousands and thousands of girls and
young women who to-day have gone out of the home. I wish I had the gift
to make them feel the far-acting importance of their personal attitude.
The root of all action is the will or desire. Yes, that is the danger.
Our desires are the greatest realities that we have, and we should look
closely to the direction towards which they are turned. Nothing but the
strongest desire on the part of women will save the home. Many forces
will be acting to make permanent conditions that cannot fail to act
adversely to any right ideal of home life. My hope is that women in the
mass will understand in time and resist these forces. Yet, I do not know,
and sometimes my fear is more active than my hope.
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