Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
In normal children the sexuality of this infantile period, which lasts
until the third or fourth year, then passes into more or less complete
oblivion. There follows a happy play period during which sex is latent,
and this lasts until puberty approaches. It is during this period of
sexual latency that the psychic forces of the child develop—forces
which, in later years, act as inhibitions on the sexual life and narrow
and direct its expression like dams. But in nervous children, where
frequently there is sexual precocity, this order is very likely to be
disturbed. And the danger may be increased by the over-fondling of an
unwise and voluptuous mother, by an ignorant nurse, or the suggestion
of an older and vicious child, with very detrimental results. A wrong
direction may most easily be given to the child’s sexual development in
its earliest years. Neurotic manifestations such as hysteria, obsessions,
and many sexual perversions, are traced back by Freud to the influence
of the wrongly directed or repressed erotic experiences of childhood.
It seems to be quite clear that any repression of the instinctive and
subconscious infantile sexuality makes for evil; that the only safe
course to follow is the culture of a healthy and right expression.
Freud goes the length of saying that obsessions are in every case
transformed reproaches which have escaped from the attempted repression
and are always connected with some pleasurable sexual feeling aroused in
childhood.
Now, before I go on further to point out the line of action, and the
change in our attitude to this question, that must follow inevitably
from our knowledge of the early existence in the child of the sexual
impulse, I would wish to underline as strongly as I am able the facts
that we have learnt: (1) _Every child is born with a sexual nature_; (2)
_this infantile sexuality furnishes the groundwork of the later sexual
life_; (3) _and the individual’s sexual conduct and health will depend,
in part at least, on the peculiarities of this early period of infancy
and childhood_; (4) _therefore, the sexual desires and instincts with
which the child is born cannot safely be left alone; they must be dealt
with in some way_; (5) _for a wrong direction to these instincts may most
easily be given by any mistake or neglect on the part of the mother or
those connected with the child_; (6) _lastly, and most important of all,
repression of sex is always dangerous; any efforts made in this direction
are very likely to lead to evil in the later life of the child_.
We have found now the answer to the question we were seeking: _the sexual
education of the child should begin in its earliest years, since there is
no age too young for harm to be done by our neglect or mistakes_.
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