Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
The first teacher must, therefore, be the mother, who is with the child
and should watch over and direct its unfolding nature, by unceasing and
selfless care, in these early years when care counts for most. And I
would state in passing, that here is another reason—and I hold it the
strongest reason of all—why no mother, who is not forced to do so, should
leave her home to work and have thus to delegate her sacred duty of
caring for her child to another.
But again we are faced with difficulties many and various that will have
to be overcome. For while every one must agree that a wise mother is
incomparably the child’s best teacher, it is equally true that the unwise
mother may do incalculable harm. And when we face, as I am attempting to
do, the conditions of the ordinary home, as we all know it to be under
the present guidance of ignorance and prejudice in these questions, it
seems certain that few mothers can wisely carry out this teaching. Not
much hope for the child until this is changed. Thus, it is clear that the
sexual education of the child will have to begin with changed conditions
in the home and sexual education of the mother.
This is going to be a very difficult task, and I speak here of good
mothers, not of bad ones. It is a painful fact that many mothers, who are
keenly conscious of their responsibility and most anxious to train their
children aright, are too shy to be of much direct use to them in their
sexual education. They cannot free themselves, even when they wish to do
this, from the vulgarisation of the idea of sex that has resulted from
their own training.
There can be nothing gained by pretending that this question of sexual
education is going to be an easy matter. It may be so in theory, it
will not be easy in practice. Sometimes, indeed, I am so filled with
doubts and sadness, that, if doing and saying nothing were working well,
I might be tempted to think that to establish sexual training under
present conditions was even a worse course than to go on leaving the
matter alone. But I know that all is not well. By continuing our policy
of negligence and cowardice we are holding open the way to disasters in
the future, the far-reaching evils of which we are only now beginning to
understand.
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