Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
And do you not see the result of this conflict to the sensitive soul of
the adolescent? The terrible evil of disharmonies first started during
these pregnant and inceptive years that should be the infancy of the
higher powers of womanhood? Robbed of a just confidence and pride in her
sex, her own stifled instincts become to a girl hateful and as something
of which she should be ashamed; she begins to chafe against her womanhood
and spurn it, bemoaning the limitations of her sex. She lapses into boy’s
ways, methods of work and ideals; she comes to live gaily enough and to
laugh carelessly, not knowing what she has lost; to care nothing to be
herself—content to choke the vision in her own life.
So it has been with you, with me, with all of us. Are we content that
this blighting shall be suffered by our daughters?
The evil is happening for want of a generous guidance from us who have
gone before. I write of what I know. Great and unending is the misery
that we make possible by our folly, sickness of body and soul, so that
the repressed nature rots away and doubt eats into natural faith. Nature
is violated at every step, and _after we have educated her_, in nine
cases out of ten, the girl emerges a mere residuum of decent minor
dispositions. There is need to change.
Much that is said or done, both consciously and unconsciously, by the
adult will torture the adolescent’s sensitiveness much more than is
conceivable to any one who has no insight to the curious psychology of
girls in these difficult years. There is as a rule at this period of life
a painful dualisation of the soul; thus, while seeking to know about
sex, many girls will turn violently from the truth, so that any guidance
we may give now will be very likely to arouse anger and disgust. And I
know of no safeguard except a full knowledge of the physical facts of
sex—of begetting and of birth, that has been gained earlier in the play
period of childhood, in years when such knowledge can be assimilated
unconsciously and its deep significance causes no response of personal
disturbance.
We have to remember that these are the years of romance and idealism,
when the always strong tendency among girls to sublimate and spiritualise
love is at its highest. Sex knowledge could not possibly be given at a
worse time than now, when the young soul is passing through its difficult
birth and the conscious self seethes and teems with emotional ferment.
If at this period the physical side of love is brought for the first
time into notice there will be a withdrawal of the girl’s ever-sensitive
confidence, and worse, an ebb of the nerves, caused by distrust
liberating the demon of fear; an almost certain reaction of incredulity
and disillusionment will follow, with after results that may prove to be
deep and far-reaching in their danger to healthy life.
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