Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
I know, of course, the difficulties which face the parents, among which
economic difficulties are important, arising from the competitive
capitalistic system by which all our lives are entangled. Yet I feel
that these considerations, though they cannot be neglected and increase
the evil, alone are not responsible; that the cause lies deeper and
is dependent on the desires of the mind; that apart from any economic
causes, and even assuming that every child could be better born and
with a happy life secured to it, there would yet be much of the problem
that would remain unsolved. And what I am trying all this time to make
plain is this: If we wish to get rid of the atrophy that is increasingly
present in the instincts of our young women, and quicken their response
to passion, with its desire for motherhood, we must first get rid of our
wrong values of what is good in life and makes for enduring happiness;
and to do this we must change our educational methods, the training in
the home and in the school, and conditions of work that are their parent.
There can be no help and no change, at least I cannot see any, except to
alter our ideals. Nothing else of any wide value can be done until these
are changed.
In the name of common sense and of sanity let us get to the real bottom
of this matter. To do anything at all we must begin at the beginning,
where the wrong is started. It is absurd to go on crying out against
the shirking of motherhood, while at the same time, in the education
of our girls and afterwards in the arrangements we make for their
working life, we show a complete evasion of the function most intimately
connected with motherhood. That is where the clue to the trouble lies.
The whole educational system in our homes and in our schools, as well
as the conditions in our workshops and houses of business, is wrong. It
discourages motherhood very heavily. And the rational thing for us to
do in the matter is not to grow eloquent about a declining birth-rate,
or to blame women for not desiring to be mothers, but rather to make
intelligent changes so as to minimise to the young the discouragement
that by our teaching and our actions we have hitherto given to motherhood.
And the first step towards this must be, I am certain, to banish from the
consciousness of every girl all feeling of shame, and all concealments
connected with her function of menstruation. In other words, we have to
face the facts of a girl’s sexual life. This is not going to be easy.
In the immediate past our attitude of hiding on these questions was due
to reasons of prudishness in regard to all natural functions, and notably
menstruation—the rubicon in the life of every girl, which first brings
or, I ought to say, _should bring_, full realisation that life for her is
separate and needs to take a different course from the life of the boy
and the man.
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