Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
This truth has been disliked so much that in practice it has been
disregarded. The wrong is started early and is continued throughout the
sexual life. The real controlling force in the education of the girl is
the mother; and motherhood has failed. Girls, with an almost criminal
neglect, have been left without any wise preparation for the first
menstruation, upon the regular establishment of which function their
health in the future must depend. Many girls, being seriously frightened
or stirred to rebellion and anger, have done foolish actions, and through
neglected hygiene evil is begun that never can be undone. This is no
over-statement. The first few menstruations have a far greater influence
not only on the body, but also on the brain and the soul of a girl than
do those that follow later when the sexual health is better established.
Every mother and teacher ought to know and heed this.
At best, and even when instructed by their mothers, girls have been
taught to regard this function as a troublesome illness that must be
suffered with patience; such a view, of course, being a relic of the
supposed curse laid upon the woman’s sex. Nor can it be said that even
to-day there is any improvement when quite different ideals prevail
regarding woman’s place and her vocation. For the new emancipation has
brought with it a false view that girls should be educated in the same
way as boys, and should be brought up in the pretence that it is right
and possible for them to work and play at all times like boys and to be
as independent of their sexual life as boys can afford to be.
Now, it does not need much imagination to understand the harm of such
teaching. The menstrual function—which really marks the sex of the girl
and fits her for motherhood—is ignored as if its occurrence were of no
importance. And such an attitude of dislike and hiding necessarily causes
a feeling of shame, more or less deep according to the temperament of
the girl. From the very first sex is presented in the shape of something
to be despised and desperately fought against, something secret and
disgusting. Even at this early stage disharmony enters into the young and
sensitive soul.
Some girls revolt in the very depths of their being, while the common
feelings aroused are expressed by such words as aversion and dislike,
anger and shame. Do you not see now the harm that is done? How sadly we
are sowing for the future. For what can be the result except to teach
our girls a shameful disrespect for themselves. What wonder is there
that many girls are stirred to rebellion which takes the outward form of
resolutely ignoring their monthly periods, and the fact that they are
girls. And the immediate result is a general lowering in the standard of
sexual health.
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