Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
But mark this: I do not wish to set up any claim for, because I do not
believe in, the superiority of one sex over the other sex. Character
is determined by the conditions of living. If, as I conceive, progress
came through the mothers, rather than through the father, it was
because the conditions were really more favourable to them, and drove
them on in the right path. Collective motives were more considered by
women, not at all because of any higher standard of moral virtue, but
because of the peculiar advantages arising to themselves and to their
children—advantages of peaceful family association which could not exist
in a group ruled by individual inclination.
During the development of the family, we may expect to find that the
males will seek to hold their rights, and that the women of the group
will exert their influence more and more in breaking these down; and this
is precisely what we do find. And for this reason the clan system, which
developed from these solitary hostile families, must be considered as a
feminine creation, which had special relation to motherhood.
The sexual egoism by which one male, through his strength and seniority,
held marital rights over all the females of his group had to be struck at
its roots. In other words, the solitary despot had to learn to tolerate
the association of other adult males.
It is impossible for me here to follow step by step the means whereby
this change was brought about. I would, however, assert my strong belief
that it was the mothers, acting in the interests of their children, who
tamed the jealous desires and domesticated the males. The adult sons,
instead of being driven from the home by the father, were permitted
to remain as members of the family group and to bring in young wives
captured from other families. At a later stage, daughters received
husbands, young males from other groups, who came first as temporary
lovers, visiting their brides by night, but afterwards remained with
them as permanent guests in the home of the mother. Under these new
conditions, the marital rights of the male members were restricted and
confined. A system of taboos was established, which, as time advanced,
was greatly strengthened by the use of sacred totem marks, and became of
inexorable strictness.
In this way peace was established, and association between the jealous
fighting males was made possible.
Here, then, are the reasons which led to the formation of the maternal
family and the communal clan. It depended, in the first place, on the
development of mutual aid between mother and offspring, based on the
much closer relationship of the children to their mothers than to the
father. As soon as the women of the family-group by combination were able
to outwit and curb the jealous rule of the father, the matriarchal clan
developed from the primitive patriarchal family.
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