Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
This reversal in the form of the marriage brought about a corresponding
reversal in the position of the woman in the sexual relationship. This
is so plain. As the patriarchate developed, and men began to gain
individual possession of their children by the purchase of their mothers,
the father became the dominant power in the family. Women no longer are
the transmitters of property and of the family name, but are themselves
property passing from the hands of their kindred to those of a husband.
As purchased wives, they reside in the husband’s house and among his kin,
where they occupy the same position of disadvantage in the family as the
husband and father had done under the maternal marriage. The protection
of her own kindred was the source of the wife’s privileged position. This
now was lost. The change was not brought about without a struggle, and
for long the old customs contended with the new. But step by step the
man became the father-master in the home.
It is, however, very necessary to remember that this reversal in the
marriage custom may well have been brought about as much by the desire of
the women as by the action of the men. I believe that the change to the
individual family must have been regarded favourably by primitive women.
An arrangement which would give a closer relationship in marriage and
the protection of a husband for herself and her children may well have
been preferred by the wife to the position of subjection in which she was
frequently placed to the authority of her brother and her own relatives.
Nor do I think it unlikely that she, quite as strongly as the man,
may have desired to live apart from her mother and her kindred in her
husband’s home. We have to remember that the reassertion of the father
within the family-group was a necessary step, and one that had to be
taken. The mother is bound to the family by her children in a much closer
way than the man ever can be bound. And for this reason any conditions
which separate the father from the home and liberate him from his
responsibilities to his children are certain not to act in the direction
of progress. The male needs to be held to the family. This is a fact much
too often forgotten.
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