Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
Now, to the self-assertive, feminist mind, imbued with industrial ideals,
this scene may make no appeal. Its peace is too quiet. Here is none of
the modern unrest, the boredom, the moving about in worlds unrealised.
But I do not think this will be noted. The one suggestion that will leap
to the thoughts is the dependent position of the women. This is true, but
it is equally true that the power of the women is far greater than it is
in any industrial home. And we find that such power is not exercised by
the young women and on account of any sexual attraction, in the way to
which we are accustomed and have come to expect, but the power is held by
the mother, whose desires through life are a law to her son. I can hardly
emphasise too strongly this power and influence of the mother at all
times when the family is firmly established. I think it must be granted
that the mother has lost her position of influence in the home wherever
industrial views of life have penetrated. She has little power over her
grown-up sons or even over her daughters. Self-assertion is also the
desire of the children; they want to break away from the mother. Perhaps
this is inevitable, and maybe it is right. It is very difficult to be
certain.
I will not dwell on this question. I would, however, ask you to keep
fixed in your attention this hesitation that has entered as a disease
into our modern consciousness. We are without purpose, and have no
absolute standard of conduct. And the result for most of us is a life
of confused aims, restless and seeking, achieving by accident what is
achieved at all.
There have been, of course, many separate causes and influences uniting
to bring this unrest, but the disorganisation of the patriarchal home,
with the change in the ideal and desires of women, has acted very
strongly as a disturbing force. We have lost, especially, that harmony in
life which woman alone is able to create.
Within the patriarchal family-group women lived a life that was complete
in itself, the home was self-contained because it included all the
elements necessary for the carrying on of a useful and healthy life.
True this home life, complete as it was in itself, was not life in the
fullest sense of living, for it lacked some of the larger elements that
only freedom of action can give. It was for women a restricted, and, in
later times, even a stunted life: in the end it came to be a parasitic
life. But for long it was a natural and satisfying life and it was always
entirely feminine, because motherhood embraced it all, inspiring every
motive and guiding every act.
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