India -- Economic conditions -- 1918-1947; India -- Politics and government -- 1919-1947; India -- Social conditions
All classes in India idolize motherhood. Among no people in the world
are mothers more loved, honored, and obeyed than among Indians. It
might be interesting to point out that a pregnant woman in India
has nothing of which to be ashamed or which she wishes to hide.
She is considered auspicious and must be accorded high respect and
consideration. We sometimes believe that the East Indian’s high
good humor and calm in life are the fruits of the Indian mother’s
unusual cheer and hope during the period of pregnancy. How unlike
the attitude of the Indian is to the westerner’s silly notions of
beauty, fine shape, and grace wherein pregnancy is made an object of
more or less open ridicule. Would that the women of America and other
western countries would forsake their restlessness and nervousness and
learn from their humbler eastern sisters the art of possessing poise,
composure, and serenity! Would that they would imitate the eastern
mother’s delicate benevolence, generosity of heart, loftiness of mind,
and independence and pride of character!
This subject of marriage is so important a matter to India that we
desire to elucidate still further the ideals underlying it. We shall
quote at length from Keyserling’s _Book of Marriage_ an essay by
Tagore, than whom no one is better fitted to speak. Says Tagore:
“Another way for the better understanding by the European of the
mentality underlying our marriage system would be by reference to
the discussions on eugenics which are a feature of modern Europe.
The science of eugenics, like all other sciences, attaches but
little weight to personal sentiment. According to it, selection by
personal inclination must be rigorously regulated for the sake of
the progeny. If the principle involved be once admitted, marriage
needs must be rescued from the control of the heart, and brought
under the province of the intellect; otherwise insoluble problems
will keep on arising, for passion recks not of consequences, nor
brooks interference by outside judges.
“Here the question arises: If desire be banished from the very
threshold of marriage, how can love find any place in the wedded
life? Those who have no true acquaintance with our country, and
whose marriage system is entirely different, take it for granted
that the Hindu marriage is loveless. But do we not know of our own
knowledge how false is such a conclusion?
“ ... Therefore, from their earliest years, the husband as an
idea is held up before our girls, in verse and poetry, through
ceremonial and worship. When at length they get this husband, he
is to them not a person but a principle, like loyalty, patriotism,
or such other abstractions which owe their immense strength to the
fact that the best part of them is our own creation and therefore
part of our own being.”
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