NetWorld! What People Are Really Doing on the Internet and What It Means to YouRothman, David H.
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NetWorld! What People Are Really Doing on the Internet and What It Means to You
Rothman, David H.
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If sexual excitement is the only goal of _certain_ Netfolks, and if the
crowd in alt.sex.wanted is too creepy, some professional women just
might meet their needs. As noted earlier in this book, a little outfit
called Brandy’s Babes advertised on the World Wide Web—complete with
hints of more than just visual stimuli. The babes are apparently off the
Net now, but some would say that successors are inevitable. In _limited_
ways the Net and the world of professional sex are much alike: both have
their jargon and, for those who seek it, their anonymity.
Both worlds are rich in eccentrics. For example, I recently ran across a
woman in her late forties who was about to bear a baby with a computer
scientist she met on the Net “an hour before April Fool’s Day.” She says
the child was accidentally “conceived about two weeks after meeting ‘in
the flesh.’ We are having the baby first. _Then_ we will talk about
marriage on a serious basis. I’m delighted at the prospect of being a
mum at last, and I am not your average clunky woman at all. I generally
feel much better about myself. I introduced Tom to sex, and he says he
had no idea how cuddle-deprived he was. He’s now quite addicted to me.”
Tom and his computer are now part of her household; like many Netfolks
he can use his modem to work virtually anywhere, which in some cases is
yet another advantage of online romance.
Like most denizens of the Internet, the e-mail lovers just mentioned are
well educated. And, although the woman was between jobs, Netfolks are
normally at least affluent. If they are students, their parents are
middle class or better. While the price of Internet service is coming
down, and while access is free in some cities and at many American
colleges, the Net doesn’t exactly teem with welfare mothers.
So what other patterns emerge among lovers who meet through the Net? “I
haven’t done a study of the personality curve, the introvert-extrovert
ratio,” Avodah Offit, the psychiatrist who wrote _Virtual Love_, told
me, “but my experience is just the opposite of what one might expect My
‘high user’ contacts are all very sociable types who hate being out of
contact with others at any time of day or night. Of course my
correspondents are not generally engaged in romance with me, but they do
write to others online in a variety of relationships.” My own
observations suggest that while many net.lovers may be introverts, her
thoughts would hold true.
Judging from lovers whose photos I’ve seen, the plugged-in couples are
neither more nor less attractive than the world at large. But the
plainer ones can use prose to compensate for looks; this is a medium
where words are everything.
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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