With the immigrant parents the situation is very different. The
countries from which they come are not republics, and hence the
opportunities for training for intelligent citizenship have been
lacking, especially in the lower economic groups. The idea of the
government has often been rather to foster that training that makes
for good soldiers. Moreover, the civilizations from which most of
these people came were at the time static, so that the evils of blind
obedience and rigid conformity were not present to the same extent as
in our more rapidly moving civilization. Thus the tradition of
absolute obedience of child to parent remained practically intact.
Wherever this tradition existed the usual method of enforcement was
corporal punishment, generally inflicted with a strap. It is not
intended to assert that a great deal of child beating was prevalent in
the old country; in most cases the child learned quickly that the
penalty of disobedience was the strap, and threats became as effective
as its actual use.
BREAKDOWN OF PARENTAL AUTHORITY
The immigrant brings with him to this country this tradition of the
authority of the parent, with no thought of doing anything but
maintaining it here. There are, however, forces at work in this
country that tend to make this impossible. There are suggestions of a
different tradition in the general atmosphere. Many immigrants absorb
these suggestions unconsciously, as they absorb those of a wider
freedom for women. More important, however, is the development of the
child. Circumstances of his daily life force him to take the lead in
many situations. This has been pointed out in a study of the
delinquent child, where it is said:[44]
Obviously, many things which are familiar to the child in the
facts of daily intercourse in the street, or in the school,
will remain unknown or unintelligible to the father and
mother. It has become a commonplace that this cheap wisdom on
the part of the boy or girl leads to a reversal of the usual
relationship between parent and child. The child who knows
English is the interpreter who makes the necessary
explanations for the mother to the landlord, the grocer, the
sanitary inspector, the charity visitor, and the teacher or
truant officer. It is the child again who often interviews
the "boss," finds the father a job, and sees him through the
onerous task of "joining the union." The father and mother
grow accustomed to trusting the child's version of what "they
all do in America," and gradually find themselves at a great
disadvantage in trying to maintain parental control.
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