In the face of this situation the conduct of the immigrant parent
generally follows along one of three very distinct lines: (a) he
modifies his methods in family discipline little by little, himself
unconscious of the implications, or (b) he stubbornly attempts to
retain the old authority undiminished, or (c) he abandons the old
system without having anything to put in its place. The first method
of behavior is probably the most common; it usually leads to little
difficulty within the family group if the parents' modifications are
made as fast as the child becomes aware of the newer ideas. The
attempt to maintain the old system in its entirety may also be
accomplished without disturbance if the child is willing, and probably
in most cases it is maintained without serious opposition on the part
of the child.
Abandoning the old system without substituting something better is
probably the least frequent reaction to the situation, but it is one
that is especially dangerous in immigrant groups. The native-born
parent who relaxes all discipline has this advantage over the foreign
born; in general he can at will demonstrate his superior knowledge,
and the child looks up to him and takes his advice, while the
foreign-born parent is peculiarly helpless because the child thinks
that his own knowledge, demonstrably superior in some things, extends
to all fields.
The relative frequency of these different modes of reaction would be a
difficult matter to determine. They were all evident from the facts
about discipline obtained from the families visited in this study. To
some extent the maintenance of the old system intact may be judged by
the prevalence of corporal punishment as a method of enforcing
obedience.
A doctor of a Lithuanian district said that one thing he was very
anxious to see disappear was the strap, which could now be seen in
almost every home. Fifty-four of the eighty-seven families from whom
information was obtained said that they used whipping as a method of
punishment. In most of the cases there was nothing to indicate with
what the child was whipped, but in five it was definitely stated that
a strap was used. In very few cases was there any attempt to punish
the child in private. It was usually stated that the whipping was done
before all the other members of the family. Two or three families
stated that they did not whip the children on the street.
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