The Italian parents, on the other hand, try to guard their girls
almost as closely as they did in Italy. It is not especially to be
wondered at, for what the immigrant father or mother sees is usually
the worst in American city life. If the daughter could not be trusted
alone or unchaperoned in a village in which they knew most of the
people and all the places of amusement, is she any more safe in a city
in which, as one foreign-born mother says, "You don't know what is
around the corner from you"?
Moreover, realizing only the danger to the girl, and not being able in
his ignorance to explain to her or to protect her in any other way,
the father often resorts to beating the girl to enforce the obedience
which generations have taught him is due to him. The head of the
Complaint Department of the Cook County Juvenile Court in Chicago said
that while cases of immorality were very rare among Italian girls, the
attention of the court was called to a great many who rebelled at this
attempt at seclusion and ran away from home, often contracting hasty
and ill-advised marriages.
While most parents of other nationalities see that the old standards
cannot be maintained, there is a great deal of confusion as to what
standards are to be considered right. This is illustrated by the
following incident. A very intelligent Jugo-Slav woman, in discussing
the problem, said that she did not know what she would do in her own
family, as she hated to think of her girls adopting American
standards. The matter had been brought to her attention recently by
the conduct of two girls with a young Serbian officer who was visiting
in this country. As he walked up one of the boulevards two girls, who
were utter strangers to him, had flourished small feather dusters in
his face by way of salutation. This woman was very much surprised to
hear that the investigator disapproved of this; she had supposed it
was just our "American freedom."
As long as the mother does not understand this tradition of freedom
between the sexes nor realize its limits, it is natural that she
should accept her daughter's dictum that everything she wants to do is
"American" and that it is hopeless for the mother to try to
understand. In many of the families visited in this study it was
evident that the mother had completely given up trying to understand
either the conditions under which her children work or how they get
their recreation. One mother, for example, said that she knew where
her daughter worked when it was a well-known place, but otherwise not.
Another said that her children told her where they worked, but she
never remembered the names, for she knew that they would mean nothing
to her.
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